fooloflove Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 (edited) Hi guys. I met a guy, he's an introvert, he doesn't talk much or text me much ( lengthy) I'm an extrovert, I love talking and all, but I love silence too. He visited me in my city and only a few hours we had breakfast and lunch and he had to go back to his city which is around 2 hours away. Everything seem fine and so but I've never dealt with passive guys, I don't mind to do the chasing part because I really do like him, and I think that girls could chase after guys too. We got kinda close and i hung out with him when I visited his city, we had a movie and small talks, I hanged out his place and we cuddled and made out. He texts me Everyday morning with just a morning or hey. He doesn't say much as he told me it's just like this is him.. I accepted that. I've overseen his phone that he could text normally with other girls, but with me he just keep things short.. yesterday I was in his city and I had a surprise visit to him and had to crash at his place, he doesn't seem happy but he knows I did it because I care and I do miss him. He told me he's feeling pressured and insisting on just being friends and tries to push me away.. is it a introvert thing? He said that because I got a bit upset on his ex, which I know is nothing to be jealous about ( I'm over it), and I suddenly did ranted on him on the way he texts me drains me out, ( but I've accepted that too) He said he felt uncomfortable with me and sometimes awkward. I asked him how do I fix things and he said he need time. After the surprise visit, he said stuff like " u got ur stuff? " ( as in my bags) Wanting me to leave After that day he texted me less and now I texted him and he sometimes responded but late replies, he's a busy person He always stares at me and kiss me on the forehead cuddle me up when I'm there I asked why are u staring he would just say nothing Mostly intense eye contact What can I do now? Since I've alr invaded his space which he truly doesn't like it.. or is he not interested anymore? I asked him before if he's interested he said he's attracted to me and he wants to get to know me better, before he said he thinks we r better off friends.. But he only said that after I got mad about his ex and his way of texting Ps: sometimes we can talk a lot but sometimes we get into silence awkwardly, why does that happen? But we can talk, just Not always He even said he apologise for being a boring person and said he wouldn't fit me right and he's gonna make me pissed off Everyday if we really did get together, why is he overthinking? Edited June 5, 2017 by fooloflove
Zahara Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 I think that girls could chase after guys too No, you reciprocate interest meaning there's a balance between two people investing in each other. You don't chase men when it's only one sided. The rest of your post reinforces that you are needy and pushy. Snooping and showing up at someone's home is a complete turn off. He's told you he just wants to be friends and can't give you what you need. No, it has nothing to do with him being an introvert but more so the fact that he's not very interested in you. 2
preraph Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 He's not interested in you romantically. You're too much for him. No one really likes to be "surprised" like that and pushed into having an overnight guest. You're too pushy and he doesn't like that and knows you are not the type of woman he wants for a girlfriend. No, it's not an introvert thing. 3
smackie9 Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 If I got a surprise visit from a BF I would be pissed too. That's over stepping personal boundaries. Soooooo you kinda blew it. In the long run tho, you two would never be on the same page emotionally anyways. You two are out of balance.
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