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been talking to this girl awhile. we've met once

 

When I asked I said "how about we get dinner and go to a art museum, nothing formal, and she said "of course . obviously"

 

I meant it as more of a casual date, getting to know one another face to face and see if theres chemistry

 

now im confused if this is even a date or if its coming off as two friends, though she knows im interested in her because ive made it pretty clear i am

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What's the difference exactly?

d0nnivain Established Member

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She knows it's a date. Don't worry. But if you want to drive the point home, when you call / text to confirm point blank say "Are you ready for our date tomorrow?"

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What's the difference exactly?

 

 

casual- more laid back, getting to knwo one another, less pressure

 

formal- more serious, already know how you feel about one another. more of a relationship type thing

d0nnivain Established Member

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casual- more laid back, getting to knwo one another, less pressure

 

formal- more serious, already know how you feel about one another. more of a relationship type thing

 

 

All dates are simply scheduled times to get to know each other. They are events to determine if one wants a relationship. They are by definition casual & there is no commitment beyond the allotted time for the activity.

 

 

However, if the above is your definition, she has no idea that it's a date because your definition is outside of the norm. Don't tell her. It will make you seem like an outlier & it may cause her to cancel.

 

 

Just go, spend time with her & make your intentions / desire for a relationship clearer while you are together.

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You need to stop thinking of a date as a marriage proposal and just date already. No date is your definition of "formal." No one knows going in if they like each other that well. And your telling her that is just confusing and makes it sound like it's just friends to me. So do follow up and use the word "date" as Donnivain suggested.

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I think when you told her "this isn't a formal date", it kind of gave away the idea that it was a date.

 

Look, anytime that you have a woman to yourself is a chance to escalate and get somewhere. So just do that regardless.

 

She's there because she's interested, unless she blatantly shows you otherwise... in which case it's next.

 

Do not make anymore of a big deal about this. Dear god don't message her again asking her about whether it's a date or not. Just take her out, start escalating verbally (tell her she looks good, you like something about her style of dress, etc), and work up to kissing.

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No need to rephrase anything now. Just go with it and let it flow.

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Yea obviously she's interested otherwise she wouldn't go

 

Thanks all

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I will act like it's a date showing interest and all that. Telling her she looks good

 

Thanks all again

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I will act like it's a date showing interest and all that. Telling her she looks good

 

Thanks all again

 

Good stuff. Have a great time.

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Women say it's not a big deal but some threads I've seen say otherwise, because women do over think a lot of things.

 

Do make sure you mention it's a date.

 

If she's reluctant or hesistates, she's not interested, basically "stating" she's not interested in dating you and that you're out as friends while you spend your hard earned money.

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Women say it's not a big deal but some threads I've seen say otherwise, because women do over think a lot of things.

 

Do make sure you mention it's a date.

 

If she's reluctant or hesistates, she's not interested, basically "stating" she's not interested in dating you and that you're out as friends while you spend your hard earned money.

 

 

im pretty sure she knows im interested in her

 

ive told her basically

 

weve flirted before

 

i texted her last week saying "i really wish we could be cuddling tonight"

 

so eya i think she knows

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If you think there is a doubt in her mind about it being a date or not, tell her to look at this really interesting art-piece... then when she's observing, spank her butt.

 

Good luck :)

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Try to relax. you are over thinking this & psyching yourself out.

 

 

If you previously mentioned cuddling & have now arranged to spend specific time together she knows it is a date.

 

 

Go with the flow. Be romantic. Hold her hand as you stroll the museum. Do not spank her butt as somebody else suggested. Sex & romance are not the same thing & spanking somebody before you know they are into that is a turn OFF.

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Try to relax. you are over thinking this & psyching yourself out.

 

 

If you previously mentioned cuddling & have now arranged to spend specific time together she knows it is a date.

 

 

Go with the flow. Be romantic. Hold her hand as you stroll the museum. Do not spank her butt as somebody else suggested. Sex & romance are not the same thing & spanking somebody before you know they are into that is a turn OFF.

 

 

thank you i am freaking out

 

i keep worrying my wording made it sem like its not a date

 

but it is

 

i got this

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(about 30 mins ago)

 

me- so were still on for 7 right?

her- tonight?!

me-its monday so yes

me- let me guess. you forgot

her- i did. omg i feel awful. why didnt you remind me?

me- because i figured you would remember??

her- i have so much **** going on. its ridiculous, i dont remember anything

 

 

sooo do i just move on from this?

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If she doesn't suggest a different date and time to reschedule as a courtesy, then you are just wasting your time. She's just blowin smoke up yer arse.

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(about 30 mins ago)

 

me- so were still on for 7 right?

her- tonight?!

me-its monday so yes

me- let me guess. you forgot

her- i did. omg i feel awful. why didnt you remind me?

me- because i figured you would remember??

her- i have so much **** going on. its ridiculous, i dont remember anything

 

 

sooo do i just move on from this?

 

Wow, she just stood you up and then blamed you for it. How ridiculous. Sorry man. I would next that one quick.

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Can you please move on from this like a man.

 

She forgot about you and you're still around?

 

Don't know what else to tell you.

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Wow, she just stood you up and then blamed you for it. How ridiculous. Sorry man. I would next that one quick.

 

 

 

the thing is i did this last month

 

had a date with a girl, i totally forgot about it and missed it

 

so as mad as i am, i sort of cnat be mad

d0nnivain Established Member

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She's right. You should have confirmed yesterday.

 

 

You are way more invested then she is. You can try one more time but I'm not optimistic.

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I have never once forgotten I have a date. She didn't either. She is mad you didn't confirm the day before. But she probably isn't that interested or she'd have gone out anyway.

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She's right. You should have confirmed yesterday.

 

 

You are way more invested then she is. You can try one more time but I'm not optimistic.

 

 

why do you think im way more invested

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the thing is i did this last month

 

had a date with a girl, i totally forgot about it and missed it

 

so as mad as i am, i sort of cnat be mad

 

For real? Dang. Well, I guess you can chalk that one up to karma then. I'm curious to know how you could forget about a date :confused:

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