Why Doesn't She Use My Name

[Grassman2017]

There is a woman I have been talking to for a few months. We both recently got out of long-term relationships, so I've been taking things a bit slower with her than I normally would. We both seem to share a mutual interest in each other, have lots in common, and when we see each other she goes out of her way to come talk to me. She even got me something for my birthday a few weeks ago. One thing that I find curious though, is the fact that she never uses my name. I know she knows my name, because she did write it in my birthday card. Do you think this means something in terms of our connection with each other? Has anyone ever experienced this? I also find that I don't use her name muchalso.

[todreaminblue]

can you give me a direct example of how you both dont use each others names...so i can understand what you are trying to work out......deb

[basil67]

I was out last night and I can't recall using anyone's name. Yes, I know it is good manners to use names - especially when greeting them, but it's something I forget to do.

 

Either that or she's got a mental block for your name. There's a handful of people who's names I can never remember. Or who's names pop into my mind after the conversation has ended. But this only happens with people who I'm not particularly close to.

[Grassman2017]

Sure...so some back story...we met at the gym a few months ago...she introduced herself to me. Despite introducing herself to ME, it took her a while to do more than make small talk. Gradually overtime, she stopped bringing her ear buds and now we talk continuously throughout our workout. We have tons of common interests.

 

So anytime she initiate conversation, she'll open by asking me a question about something she knew I'd done, say over the weekend....instead of "Hey Jim..."...I tend to do the same for some reason. I don't think it's a big deal but think it's curious.

[Grassman2017]

And I know she knows my name cuz she wrote it in BIG letters on my birthday card.

[coolheadal]

And I know she knows my name cuz she wrote it in BIG letters on my birthday card.

 

Does it really matter that much if you calls or says your name out loud. Do you call her name or say it out loud as well..

[TheFinalWord]

There is a woman I have been talking to for a few months. We both recently got out of long-term relationships, so I've been taking things a bit slower with her than I normally would. We both seem to share a mutual interest in each other, have lots in common, and when we see each other she goes out of her way to come talk to me. She even got me something for my birthday a few weeks ago. One thing that I find curious though, is the fact that she never uses my name. I know she knows my name, because she did write it in my birthday card. Do you think this means something in terms of our connection with each other? Has anyone ever experienced this? I also find that I don't use her name muchalso.

 

I would not gauge the type of connection I have with someone based on that, I would base it on how things go with the dates you go on together. Out of curiosity, do you go out on dates or is she just someone you talk to at the gym?

[mortensorchid]

I thought you meant that she doesn't know your name AT ALL, but she does. Have you asked her how/why she does this?

[Mumbles]

I don't think this means anything. Its just a personal mannerism would be my guess.

 

However, if you'd like to hear her use your name, then start dropping hers, a -lot-. Unless she has somehow managed to forget yours, she will feel an irresistible urge to respond in kind.

[smackie9]

What does she use? boo? hun? hey you?

 

If it's texting why use a name when you already know who you are talking to?

 

 

Come to think of it I don't say anyone's name either when I talk to them.

[mrs rubble]

The only time I use my husband's name is if I'm trying to get his attention or talking about him!!