heartbroken6317 Posted June 3, 2017 Posted June 3, 2017 My girlfriend left me about 9 months ago, we were together for 3 years. She cheated on me twice while we were together. The first time, I forgave her and did everything I could to make it work because I didn't want to lose her. The second time, however, she ended up leaving me for the girl she cheated with and they are still together and seemingly serious. I know this because, even though I know I shouldn't, I sometimes look at her social media, subconsciously looking for any sign that she might miss me. The last time we talked was about three months after the break up, she apologized for disappointing me but reiterated that she had completely moved on and had no time for me in her life anymore, and that I needed to respect her new relationship. Words couldn't really express how devastated this made me feel. Yet.. all of this considered.. I still dream about her sometimes. I have good days in between, but when I see her in my dreams, I wake up and I am miserable and unhappy for the rest of the day. Even though these bad things happened while we were together, I still feel like I lost my best friend. She was one of the only people who understood me and it feels like I won't ever be able to find something like that again. My question would be, is this normal? I am waiting for the day when I will be fully healed from this but it seems like I am still in mourning most of the time. Not sure what to do at this point, and just hoping for some advice. Thank you
Ronnys93 Posted June 3, 2017 Posted June 3, 2017 It is completely normal. What you have to do from this point is focus on your healing. She has completely moved on and now you have to work just as hard to get there. When was the last time you truly did something for yourself? Start there! Go to the gym, read books you've always wanted to read, start some new hobbies, make and continue to hang out with your friends. You need to immerse yourself back into the world and get busy! Therapy sometimes does help because it allows you to process the breakup with a non-biased third party. I understand however that it's not always feasible money wise. Eventually, while you may still think of your ex, the pain starts to fade and you'll be looking into dating again.
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