beauty0815 Posted June 3, 2017 Posted June 3, 2017 So I've been dating this guy that I Met off a dating website. After 21 days of conversing online we finally agreed to meet in person for a date. It was great , he was such a gentleman, opened doors , polite , paid for dates (even when I truthfully offered) and was very open with communication , affectionate in public but he never stepped out of line where it was too much. For our second date he was going to pick me up but got into a car accident on the way and I only knew because someone who claimed to be his brother texted me that he had told him all about me and then told me what had happened. I figured that's a legit reason to cancel a date and he apologized and rescheduled. IMO I was not going to hold that against him . Fast forward to 6 successful dates and a month and a few days later. We were getting to know each other very well, I met two of his friends and even though He insisted on me meeting his mother, However I declined . First off , it was way too early to meet any family memebers and I know anything rushed never works out. He told me about his ex of a few years who cheated on him multiple times but insisted he'd never go back to her even if she tried to come back into his life . ( she has been contactacting his family to try to talk to him but he claims he never budged) I honestly believed him because we were mostly always together. Well this past Monday 5pm he calls me with a sick whisper voice saying he is in the hospital and has to go through surgery . When I ask what surgery he says some type of lymph node, I obviously was shocked as he was too but encouraged him that'll I'll be with him through this and I will come visit him. He told me that's fine and he would call me back with the details of the hospital and to stay by the phone. Well I stayed by the phone and guess what No text call or anything ! 4 days went by from complete silence on his end I called n texted his phone MULTIPLE times , to no answer and subconsciously texted his "brother" number about his brothers surgery and that I'm worried if he is okay , And no response from either of them. So I asked my friend to call him from her number since he doesn't know her number and what do you know , a girl answers and gives him the phone and he answers with a very healthy voice unlike the one he gave me on the phone . I was so shocked I was lost for words and hung up. Here I was thinking he was dead or he had complications from his "surgery" and he's with a girl. It's funny how he answered a random number but ignored mine and all my messages. For four days I sent texts asking him if he was okay and I'm worried, what hospital is he at so I can see him etc. and to think I texted his brother about it he must of thought I was crazy smh . I'm so hurt but I guess it's a lesson learned . He seemed like the right guy for me. Did he want me to think he died ? Pretty weird and sick if you ask me . Just to think he was watching me call his phone and reading my messages of distress is beyond upsetting . Do you think the girl was his ex ? ( I did call back from my friends phone and now he just let it ring , when I was calling from my phone he let it ring as well) . I did send him a not so nice text then blocked him from my phone not that he'll try to write back or anything since he hasn't been for the past few days . I just feel embarrassed and humiliated, any insight can help . Why do guys go ghost ? Why waste your money on dates if you don't see anything long term with me ? If you want a fling just say that , that's not what I was looking for though and we both made that completely clear when we were face to face .
Ieris Posted June 3, 2017 Posted June 3, 2017 Did he want me to think he died ? You better start treating him as if he did. He probably wasn't even in hospital, people will make up all sorts of stupid stories because they are so desperate for attention. I mean you really have to pity people like him, he thinks he's played you but all it did was show what a sad empty life he has. People who have things going for them in life don't have time for these silly games. 1
Author beauty0815 Posted June 3, 2017 Author Posted June 3, 2017 @Ieris that is very true , I haven't tried to contact him since . I am still hurt but refuse to reach out again , he hasn't either which is expected but it's just an embarrassing situation. However , I do know that life goes on .
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