TheBathWater Posted June 4, 2017 Posted June 4, 2017 We simply were watching tv when she got annoyed with me turning up and down the volume (it's an action flick so some parts were louder than the others). She started to ignore me at that point. The next thing I knew she's yelling at me about how she wants me to find work closer to home. Says that every time she brings it up I get annoyed because to be quite clear with you I'm not comfortable with it. I asked her to please drop the subject. And lone behold she gets even more upset. So upset that she storms out the house to her parents home. You know who that makes look bad? You guessed it... me. She ALWAYS wants to win anything and everything. That's why I decide to not ever bring anything up. It's because I KNOW it ends up with her getting mad. What do I do? How do I get it through her head that there are ways to go about differences? I'm not sure what your communication style is like, but have you tried opening her up emotionally when she is upset? Say things like: "tell me everything you're feeling," repeat back to her what she says to make sure you understand, empathize with her and encourage her to say more and not leave anything out, continue empathizing with her, own whatever role you play in her feelings (even if you did not upset her "on purpose"), and negotiate a win/win resolution when possible. It's possible that you already do these things and she has an argumentative personality for whatever reason, but I find that in many instances if one partner can learn how to open up the other emotionally and respond to them in a non-judgmental way then the injured party suddenly feels understood and things can move forward. Relationships really are all about communication.
Arieswoman Posted June 4, 2017 Posted June 4, 2017 She needs to grow up. I suggest you dump her and start dating a woman, not a spoiled little girl. Sorry x
coolheadal Posted June 4, 2017 Posted June 4, 2017 (edited) When these types of arguments happen, no im not happy. I ended up apologizing and she's still not talking to me. I'm getting fed up. Man listen to me you do not need her in your life right now. kick her out, go find one that stable instead of being unstable. She will never change and stop apologizing to her, GROW SOME OKAY! Really grow-up and act like a man who is confident and has some self-esteem. You never do what you did this controlling woman. You gave her all the control in this relationship she now can push all the buttons she wants on you, because she knows you will always do nothing! Edited June 4, 2017 by coolheadal
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2017 Posted June 4, 2017 If being calm a reasonable doesn't work, ending the relationship will.....you would be much happier.....tell her she can stay at her parents permanently and her stuff will be left on the stoop. Done and done.
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