Nogan Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Ok thank you. When she told me that we shouldn't be exclusive we got into a discussion of how dating is these days. She was telling me that people today and our in our age group date multiple people at once. I told her I thought usually people date others one at a time and see if things go from there, if it goes good they continue and if not then you know its not meant to be and move on to the next person or whatever. Is it weird for me to put all my eggs in one basket at a time and see what happens from there or should i try and date multiple people at once? She's 23, which effectively makes her an idiot with almost zero relationship experience, so don't listen to her as some sort of authority just because she holds all the cards in whatever imbalanced thing you two share. I typically avoid dating young women because they're in this mindset where they suddenly have all this sexual power and attention because men are horndogs, but don't have enough insight to make good decisions. Which, in general, makes them as insufferable as this girl sounds. Dating multiple people at once is a boundary you set early on. There's nothing wrong with committing to one person. When I'm genuinely interested in someone, that's what I do. There's certainly a grace period before you have sex and you're still getting to know someone where there aren't really any expectations, but you have to be careful; playing with hearts will get you in trouble. It's a ****ty thing to do to other people to treat them like placeholders in your life that you're freely able to shuffle at will. My advice is to leave this girl because it sounds like you want different things. Plus, she lives forever away. This is a no-brainer. Plus, you're young, so chances are you can go out and find some other cute girl to hang on within a week.
joseb Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Yes. So she knows the kind of guy you are. You two had nothing. She told you that she didn't want exclusivity with you. You breached her privacy, to which she is entitled as someone who is a free agent and not in a relationship with anyone. There is nothing untowards about that conversation between her and that guy and it certainly wasn't any of your business. If the tables were reversed, I'd say the same thing to a girl who snooped the phone of a guy she wasn't in a relationship with. Agree snooping is really bad. If I caught someone snooping my phone like op I think I wouldn't be seeing them again However, there is a difference between not having agreed to exclusivity, and bare faced lying and saying you are a Virgin to string someone along, while sleeping with other guys, so op is best rid of her anyway.
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