No_Go Posted June 3, 2017 Posted June 3, 2017 Well, I was in your BF position in terms of wanting to buy a house with my partner. My now ex-bf of corse had the choice to propose before buying if he wanted to. Fast forward, we broke up, I bought the house by myself and that's that. We would have broken up anyways (he was looking on dating sites while with me), so good that his name is not on my mortgage... But point being, I wanted to buy with him because I wanted him in my life long term. Nevertheless I never changed relationship status on FB (and I probably never will with anyone - my relationship status is no one else business). That being said, every thing in isolation means little, put all words and actions together to see where you stand. And do it before making major decisions like kids or house etc.
elaine567 Posted June 3, 2017 Posted June 3, 2017 DO NOT empty your savings account into this joint account. A joint account can be emptied by one individual, so do not put all your cash into it. A joint account is good for paying bills and you can both put in an agreed monthly amount, and even if one does have an aberration and decides to pocket the lot then it is not a huge amount. Keep your savings entirely separate.
d0nnivain Posted June 4, 2017 Posted June 4, 2017 Your BF is more then "unsure" about you. He is not somebody you can co-mingle your life with at this point: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/625901-unsupportive-bf#post7329379 If he balks when he finds out you withdrew your share of the house savings, you tell him it's because of what it said & the lousy unsupportive way he acted when you were assaulted. I hope you are OK & the police catch whoever hurt you. 1
Poutrew Posted June 4, 2017 Posted June 4, 2017 Like others have said, don't put your money into a joint account with him. Otherwise, one day you will wake up and both he and your money will be gone. Or, he will buy a house, only forget to tell you about it, or put your name on the title... If he throws a tantrum, throw him out.
preraph Posted June 4, 2017 Posted June 4, 2017 Seriously, after having read your other thread, I am urgently telling you to get your money and get out of this relationship. I think he just wants to take advantage of you. He has no love for you and not one protective bone in his body. The cruelty of him bringing up his empty gas tank on such a dire occasion as your assault. This guy is a selfish user. Please please get your money and just leave and you can tell him why later. I'm worried that he will talk you out of it for his own gain like he has been able to talk you into it to get to where you are today. So wait until he's gone and get your stuff and get your money and get out! 1
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