lovexoxo Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 Please give me some insight. I'm 19 my husband is 21 but I refuse to let age be an excuse. I'm tired of fighting alone. I need to know if its helpless or there's a shot in the dark. I have a 2 year old of my own who's a handful and we have a 1year old together. Ontop of that we live with his mother I'd rather live in a box. She is a constant complainer and is never happy. She takes all her anger out on me and LOOKS for opportunities to criticize me. The worst part is she thinks she's a perfect Christian and that I'm Satan which she's said numerous times.My husband has maybe changed our daughter 10 times since birth he can barely get through an hour of watching her and makes his disabled mother watch the kids while I go to work and he runs around with 18 year old "men". He spends all the money I make on himself or gambling and stole my card so our daughter had a ****y 1rst bday because I had no money. He's cheated 4 times from what I know and always says things will get better but does nothing and he's the one depressed. He will not help us get our own place infact he sinks us in debt. Is there any hope on Gods green earth this man can love me?
aileD Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 Please give me some insight. I'm 19 my husband is 21 but I refuse to let age be an excuse. I'm tired of fighting alone. I need to know if its helpless or there's a shot in the dark. I have a 2 year old of my own who's a handful and we have a 1year old together. Ontop of that we live with his mother I'd rather live in a box. She is a constant complainer and is never happy. She takes all her anger out on me and LOOKS for opportunities to criticize me. The worst part is she thinks she's a perfect Christian and that I'm Satan which she's said numerous times.My husband has maybe changed our daughter 10 times since birth he can barely get through an hour of watching her and makes his disabled mother watch the kids while I go to work and he runs around with 18 year old "men". He spends all the money I make on himself or gambling and stole my card so our daughter had a ****y 1rst bday because I had no money. He's cheated 4 times from what I know and always says things will get better but does nothing and he's the one depressed. He will not help us get our own place infact he sinks us in debt. Is there any hope on Gods green earth this man can love me? What the hell are you doing? Did you even read what you wrote? Get out of this now, get your stuff together and make a good life for you and your kids. Get on birth control too if you aren't. You're too yo No to be married with kids, you're still a kid yourself. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders which is great, but please open your eyes to the situation you are in. You don't want to waste years of your life on this. 4
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 the most important question is do you love him? Do you think his actions tell you he loves you? My personal opinion...which means nothing...is take your babies and hit the road. He has a whole lot of growing up to do...and you have two kids to raise...let his momma finish raisng him. YOu dont need to saddle yourself with a man who contributes nothing to this relationship. 5
sandylee1 Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 Your husband is a waste of space and you'd be better off without him. He has many years of growing up to do before he is anything like a decent husband. Hit the road. Stop giving him your money and leave him to sleep with whoever he chooses. Men behave like this, because women in your position allow it. I'm sure you'd hate your DD to marry a deadbeat like him.
GunslingerRoland Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 First, have a little sympathy for his mother. I'm not saying she is treating you the best. But from what you've said this poor disabled lady is having to look after her dead beat son's kid and step kid all day and house the 4 of you. It isn't a fair situation for her to say the least. Second, I think you need to figure out what keeps causing these babies to happen? I'm kidding but accidental pregnancy among young people is really low these days, how do you manage to do it twice? Do you really not have a clue about safe sex? Finally but most importantly, who cares if you can get him to love you... worry about how you can get yourself to love you. If you loved yourself at all, you wouldn't even consider being with someone like that. 3
Cephalopod Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 You may not think your ages area factor, but studies have shown that the human brain is not mature until about age 22. Your brain is still growing, and males have even slower noggins. Babies having babies worked in the 1800s, not in the 21st Century. Divorce him and move out of that situation before you end up doing something even more stupid than having kids when you're 17. 1
BaileyB Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 With all due respect, there is some really bad decision making here. You may be young, but you have made decisions that now require you to assume big responsibility - for your babies. With age comes the wisdom to know that this guy is not a dependable partner, and it is unlikely that this will change any time soon. Take care of your babies and don't spend too much of your life staying with a man who isn't a worthy partner. 2
NTV Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 No. There is no hope he can love you. Not from the way you describe him. 1
preraph Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 So he isn't even working at all? If he is working, get a divorce and make him take joint custody so he too can learn to be a parent and juggle work and kids. Then that frees you up a little to work. Don't let him skate without joint custody. At least he has someone to help watch the kids.
Daisy2013 Posted June 1, 2017 Posted June 1, 2017 Oh, dear, run fast, please! You are so young and life is ahead of you. It will be tough with a baby, but you can do it! And your daughter will be better off, too, in the long run. Love you? I don't know, people can grow and change, but right now it doesn't seem like he is mature enough to know what love is. Please go....
mikeylo Posted June 2, 2017 Posted June 2, 2017 I doubt you are in a healthy state of mind to make any right decisions. Get some help.
Recommended Posts