tried going at this breakup alone, now here. ex gf has new bf so soon? why

[downinthedump]

Hi, initially didn't want to join any forums since was afraid the ex gf might see it. But it's been a rough 3 months of a break up. I don't know if anyone reads this but i will keep it short as possible but please any possible insight would be great. Is there a chance, what is going on, never felt this pain.

 

Was with ex gf for a lil over a year. Great beginning, then i became complacent, sometimes during times of stress i'd be distant or not very nice. We had the great bond and talks about being soul mates, babies, etc during the course of relationship. She was insecure always wondering if i was with other women if not with her. I never cheated.

 

She checked my phone and found no cheating texts but dumb group chat guy talk with my buddies, about banging this girl that girl etc, really stupid locker room talk that we would never act on. She confronted me, i lash out we argued. Things ended. That was 3 months ago

 

 

Month 1.

I was blocked from her social media and all photos of me/us started gradually deleted from her social media....and at this stage i read a billion articles online and youtube channels of coreywayne/craigkenneth etc. and do NC

 

I'm unblocked and reblocked again

 

 

Month 2.

After 2 months I broke NC, i couldn't take it. she's always wanted my attention and me chasing her so i figured **** it, nothing to lose and i sent a small text of saying i miss her .. I get no reply ... and i haven't reached out since

 

Few day later she posted up that she was in a relationship with another guy via facebook.

 

Few days after that she hangs out with a mutual friend and tells our mutual friend she misses me while crying. (so that was shocking)

 

Her social media has been quiet during month 2, which was peculiar because figured she'd keep consistently posting about her new bf but no signs yet just that one FB relationship post.

 

 

Month 3.

I keep posting photos of myself staying busy and productive in my life. She might've saw it and reblocks me again.

 

Finally she posts up a photo of them 2 , looking very happy.... (which obviously destroyed me.)

 

 

and now i'm here. online just trying to keep sane. What do you think? Done forever? miss her so much. The main thing that is killing me is that if we both sat back, realized some things and gave it a second chance rather than her jumping into a new relationship a month after so fast... what are your thoughts in general and thoughts on reconcile in future?

[preraph]

I think of course she missed you. It's rare not to miss someone a little bit. But missing doesn't equal wants to get back together. She'd given you no reply or any reason to hope she wants to get back together, plus she has moved on. Now, is it possible once that relationship fades, she might reconnect? Anything is possible. But don't give up your dignity during this time and act pathetic. She has blocked you but knows where to find you if she ever wants to. Don't try to force contact. That only makes women realize they were right to shut it down.

 

I'm glad you feel like you know what dumb things you did wrong to lose her. Keep that in mind for the future. Sounds like you really didn't treat her very well or let her know you cared that much, even if you didn't cheat on her, which is good. But sounds like you were acting kind of mean to her to make her feel bad Nobody needs that.

[Maldives]

My guess is its a rebound and she's not really that happy wth him and she's trying to get a stab at u and hurt u to show how happy she is but there's clues tg hat she isn't;)

[downinthedump]

Should I have one last "talk" after breakup of few months? Maybe for closure?.

Hi been broken up with a gal for about 3 months now. She got into a new relationship with another guy a month after break up. I believes has anxious attachments. I wasn't the best bf during our relationship, she loved but I never really showed her back that much cuz of my own attachment issues.

 

It's been a rough breakup for me I broke NC 2 months in and texted that I miss her. I got no reply.

 

Afterwards she told a mutual friend that she misses me and loves me while crying ...While she does seem happy with new guy.

 

My question is since today has been a hard day.. could I or should I contact and just have one last conversation face to face to maybe try to move on from her? Just saying some things like, sorry for not treating her right and wish her the best, and say stuff like I've learned so much from our relationship and will grow from it when I get into a new one. Thank you etc .Maybe just to be at ease? What do you guys think? How do you think I will feel afterwards ? Obviously I would prefer to have her back but if she's gone then maybe a final talk?

[hercules22]

i would block her myself

[1fish2fish]

Should I have one last "talk" after breakup of few months? Maybe for closure?.

Hi been broken up with a gal for about 3 months now. She got into a new relationship with another guy a month after break up. I believes has anxious attachments. I wasn't the best bf during our relationship, she loved but I never really showed her back that much cuz of my own attachment issues.

 

It's been a rough breakup for me I broke NC 2 months in and texted that I miss her. I got no reply.

 

Afterwards she told a mutual friend that she misses me and loves me while crying ...While she does seem happy with new guy.

 

My question is since today has been a hard day.. could I or should I contact and just have one last conversation face to face to maybe try to move on from her? Just saying some things like, sorry for not treating her right and wish her the best, and say stuff like I've learned so much from our relationship and will grow from it when I get into a new one. Thank you etc .Maybe just to be at ease? What do you guys think? How do you think I will feel afterwards ? Obviously I would prefer to have her back but if she's gone then maybe a final talk?

 

Your closure is that she broke up with you.

 

Contacting her will only set you back further because you won't get the answers you want, and she'll only get another ego boost that you've reached out first.

 

You need to block her from all social media outlets so that you can heal. Who cares who she's with and what she's doing?? It's none of your business, and she has made her choice. It's only hurting you watching her move on.

 

I know you're hurting right now, but the only way out, is through. It sucks, but you need to let yourself grieve and heal.