jparmyguy Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 Recently, my ex dumped me a few weeks back and said that there might be a chance for us to get back together when she got back from vacation. I spent the entire 2 weeks on Sunday talking to people and getting my hopes up on how to fix our relationship. Little did I know she already knew that she was not going to give it another chance but wanted to wait to tell me so that she didn't ruin her vacation. She ended up reading a convo between her mom and I on Sunday night, and so she decided to tell me through a friend that it was time to part ways because we had grown apart. I felt devastated and was going to beg again but I didn't so that I wouldn't loose my dignity. I feel so hurt by her because of all the things we had been through together. After she cheated on me when we first started dating, I gave her chance after chance in hopes of making this relationship work. She would continue to lie to me time and time again but I didn't care. When the coin flipped and I gave her less attention because she hanging out with her male friends behind my back. Now that I asked her for a second chance I was denied that. I have so much anger and pain built up because of this. I have been kicking myself in the face because I spent all this time trying to figure out a way to fix things so we could be back together. I lost sleep and my appetite over this. I have been thinking about her non stop and I just want her out of my head and I cant. It hurts knowing that even though she told me she is sad about it she seems to be happier. She takes constant snap chat stories of her having fun and uploads a new Instagram picture everyday. Not once did she talk about me to anyone. She told me to stay strong because it was for the best. I told her I would but I have no clue how to stay strong. This girl who I had dated for 2.5 years dumped me over a text message and told me there might be chance. I talked about a future with this girl all the time and even had a list of names we would call our kids in the future. I don't know why I can't get it through my head that we are done and that I will never see this girl in my life again. Its so hard to stop myself from trying to meet up with her person and tell her that we can make this work. I have taken all the steps for no contact but my friend kind of screwed me over by opening a snap chat story of hers in front of me. I just feel so hurt right now and want to get her out of my head. I hate myself for taking her back after cheating on me because I only got hurt in the end. I feel as if I will never will be the same again, this was my first real love. I have dated girls in the past, but never for the long term. It has been 2 weeks since the break up and 3 days since I have known that she wouldn't take me back. I am hoping that in a months time I will be ok, but I'm afraid that if I see her ever again or hear from her, that I will be back at square one.
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 I'm sorry this is happening but you will get through it. You were together for 2.5 years. You are not going to get over her in 2.5 weeks. Seeing her again will be painful but you won't be all the way back at square one. Do avoid her until you are stronger. Make sure your friends don't sabotage your progress by showing you her social media or talking about her. As your friends they should be willing to be supportive. Since you are a list maker & a planner, make lists & plans of how to keep yourself distracted & all the things you are going to do this summer without her. Keep busy. Surround yourself with positive people. You will get through this. 1
Author jparmyguy Posted June 1, 2017 Author Posted June 1, 2017 I'm sorry this is happening but you will get through it. You were together for 2.5 years. You are not going to get over her in 2.5 weeks. Seeing her again will be painful but you won't be all the way back at square one. Do avoid her until you are stronger. Make sure your friends don't sabotage your progress by showing you her social media or talking about her. As your friends they should be willing to be supportive. Since you are a list maker & a planner, make lists & plans of how to keep yourself distracted & all the things you are going to do this summer without her. Keep busy. Surround yourself with positive people. You will get through this. Eventually, I know I will and I am going to start picking up my slack tomorrow. I ended up messaging her and we agreed to meet up in person Saturday night to talk about all that happened. Yeah it might hurt more but at least ill know what I did that caused her to break up with me. She briefly went into a bit more detail about it over the messages. She told me she became unhappy in the end because I never went out with her and would always complain about the money. She told me she didn't want someone like that in her life and wanted a person that would appreciate doing fun activities and not care about how much it would hurt the bank. Also I guess I made her loose confidence in school, because the way I was raised was to tell the truth of what is going to happen. Basically, my parents would say stuff to me like keep doing drugs and you'll end up no where. For me it worked but that sort of stuff did not work for her. I would say stuff like keep slacking and watching TV and you'll end up at PetSmart for the rest of your life. I guess by saying stuff like that just made things worse but I never really knew since she never told me until now.
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