Cori Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 Long story short, my ex dumped me. I met him last summer then he had to move home to get a visa renewed. He moved back only a few months ago, he has culture shock. He is beyond overwhelmed by how different everything is. He dumped me but has continously contacted me. I tried to cut off contact because he wont give me space and he doesnt want to get back together right now. He has been super jealous and paranoid that I am already sleeping with guys (its been a week), that i am dating. None of this is true! I cared deeply and was in love with this man. He is hurting me. I have always been loyal and honest with him, ALWAYS. So its so hurtful and disrespectful. He is interrogating me asking if I have given my number out. He apologizes, says he loves me, then continues. When I stop replying, then " I never cared" The last thing he sent to me was "I am also very sorry that you dont want me I thought you may react a bit different, but you stated your position firmly, and havent tried to beg me back or anything, I"m surprised but kinda understand" ????? He also has major issues from how his ex hurt him.\ Thanks
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 He moved home, then dumped you. Why are you talking to him at all? Why does he know you have a new rebound BF? Why do you care what he thinks? You know he doesn't want to get back together. The immigration issues alone would put me off. Let him go. Block him. Move on. 2
1fish2fish Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 There is no "trying" when it comes to cutting off contact. Delete, block, and move on. Don't let him have access to anything in your life! This way, he can't hurt you. 4
BaileyB Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 It would seem that it is for the best that he is now your ex... send him one last email that says, "I'm sorry. It's over. Please don't contact me again." 1
elaine567 Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 He is acting like a lot of people do after a break up, he broke up with you, he doesn't actually want you, he wants to date other people, but he cannot bear to let someone else have you, so he messes with your head. Don't put up with this nonsense, block him and move on.
Author Cori Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 He moved home, then dumped you. Why are you talking to him at all? Why does he know you have a new rebound BF? Why do you care what he thinks? You know he doesn't want to get back together. The immigration issues alone would put me off. Let him go. Block him. Move on. I don't have a new boyfriend. I am single and not dating. I just am trying to heal and I am fine being on my own. He just thinks I'm seeing someone because that's what he's telling himself. I have not said I am nor have given him any reason to think I am.
Author Cori Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 Thank you everyone for your advice and kind words. I know I need to cut contact. I have not replied to him all day and his insane messages. He's been blocked on Facebook since day one. I just have trouble ignoring someone because that was done to me and it's the worst feeling in the world. It's for the best though.
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 I don't have a new boyfriend. I am single and not dating. I just am trying to heal and I am fine being on my own. He just thinks I'm seeing someone because that's what he's telling himself. I have not said I am nor have given him any reason to think I am. Sorry. I replied to you very early this morning when I couldn't sleep & apparently didn't read carefully. You still need to separate yourself from him. It's the best way for you to move forward. 1
kendahke Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 Block him and let him stay gone. He's manipulating you and messing with your head. You let it happen because you're giving him access to you. You do have agency in this---you can block him from calling/texting/social media. Question is: why won't you do this?
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