Fresnite Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 Ok now I'm not saying I'm in love so take it easy lol. I was interested in different people's opinions and thoughts on this. How early is too early to feel "in love" or to love someone in a relationship? I've heard/read that guys usually "feel" this way before the woman and are more likely to say it first. But What is considered the proper or "acceptable" time to feel this? Then what about the timing to reveal this to your significant other?
CptInsano Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 Ok now I'm not saying I'm in love so take it easy lol. [...] Then why are you asking? 2
Mrs. John Adams Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 First you have to define love and realize that there are many differents types and many different levels. As a 16 year old girl I fell in love with an 18 year old boy....and i only knew him 5 months when we got engaged...and we got married 3 months later. Ss How do we know we are in "love" and and how long does it take to get there? and does love change? the love I had at 16 is far different from the love i have 45 years later. I am afraid I left you with more questions than answers.... 1
mercy Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 How early is too early to feel "in love" or to love someone in a relationship? Love doesn't have a timetable, you just feel it. You express it with your actions, when to say it aloud is entirely up to you. I told my h very early on, he told me I was nuts, he said I was in lust, which was probably true...but still I knew he was the one. So when are you going to tell her? 1
RecentChange Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 When you feel it and are brave enough to say it. My H said it very early on, just a few months into dating. I immediately reciprocated, as I felt the same way. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 It varies. Lust & infatuation are pretty quick. Love takes a while to build. It includes trust & some elements of friendship. For me its after exclusivity & sex. I think DH & I said it around the 3 month mark, which was pretty fast for me. Where you say it can be as important as when. Certain situations -- immediately post coital -- bespeak insincerity. 2
Author Fresnite Posted May 30, 2017 Author Posted May 30, 2017 Then why are you asking? Well it's way to early and i have strong feelings of attraction and attachment and I'm probably in the infatuation stage because it's new. Just made me think what if its the same feeling as love and if so how do you distinguish and how soon can you express it or reveal it or even know if its really love. It could just be the excitement from it is all.
preraph Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 Once you have been through harder life events with a partner is when you really find out if you have a love that will stand up to life. How people handle the problems like car trouble, running out of money, gotten seriously ill or injured, lost a job, etc., will tell you a lot about a person fast and no one should get married before they have seen what they're like when life is not easy and how you work as a couple when life is not easy. 2
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 It could just be the excitement from it is all. The excitement is a good indicator that it's infatuation / lust. Love is calmer & stronger.
Author Fresnite Posted May 30, 2017 Author Posted May 30, 2017 The excitement is a good indicator that it's infatuation / lust. Love is calmer & stronger. Well i mean it's fairly new, so it's obviously not love. Of course it's infatuation. But isn't it when you get past the infatuation that you are able to see if it turns to be love or just lust?
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