She's lost interest.

[Bern216]

I'll try to keep this short. I met a girl online a month ago. I'm 30 and she is 25. We immediately hit it off and had a lot in common. We hung out a week later and had sex on the first date which was incredible. We continued to talk for the next couple of weeks talking all day making future plans with each other etc. She was on vacation last week and this past Saturday idk what happened she went cold. No more good morning texts from her no more calls nothing. My gut was telling me that something was wrong. So I confronted her calmly about it. She said she had just been really busy these past couple of days and that she does like me and things would be better once she got home. I asked if we could talk later no response yet I saw her all over Facebook and Snapchat talking to other people. I saw some of the comments she was leaving on this one guys wall and that's when a day later I asked if there was somebody else. She said yes she was talking to him and me. She said I haven't even kissed him yet. That she was really confused on what she wanted. I told her it's okay if you don't know what you want I'll I ask is for you to be honest with me. Again no response. Yesterday I had to be rushed to ER for a health issue and she found out and tried to figure out what was going on. She said she did like me that she felt a connection with me and that's what made this so hard. I told her it's okay only you can figure out what is going to make you happy. Then as I'm writing this I haven't heard anything. Bums me out that multiple people have reached out to me to see how I'm doing yet radio silence from her. I decided to take her off all of my social media and delete her number as I feel I'm just being strung along. It's disappointing but I feel for my own sanity it was in my best interest to do so. If she feels the way she says she does she will reach out but her actions have told me she's just really not that into me.

[xUnknown]

Too much too fast.

 

Let this one be. On to the next one.

[kendahke]

She said that she was really confused

 

This is the tell tale sign of someone who is letting someone else into a place of intimacy at the same time they've let you in.

 

I think that you've done the right thing in deleting her from social media, etc. I'd also block her since this guy has her head to the point where she can't even check on you to see how you're doing. Friends don't do that to friends and someone who is more than a friend should act like they are.

 

And btw---there is no connection with her. If there was one, she wouldn't be giving another guy a chance.

[smackie9]

Zowie brah you just had one date and already you are swooning and pickin names for yer babies.

 

like I always say, go by their actions not what they say to you..... she is keeping her options open....seems to me she's digging this other guy more, and she doesn't have the same feelings for you like you have for her. You best be moving on.

[Bern216]

I wasn't the one making any of the future plans. It was all on her end. I was the one who even said I wanted to take things slow because rushing into things never works out and didn't want to screw this up. She agreed that was best. But yes at this point moving on is my only option. Still haven't heard a thing from her which doesn't surprise me. I deserve better and have more respect for myself to put up with that.

[CoolJoe]

I wasn't the one making any of the future plans. It was all on her end. I was the one who even said I wanted to take things slow because rushing into things never works out and didn't want to screw this up. She agreed that was best.

 

And yet you had sex with her the first date.

 

Actions > words, thoughts and convictions

 

This hot cold stuff happens all the time.

 

Best to move on.

[Ieris]

@Bern216 ~ I think you did the right thing, no point making her a priority when you are just an option.