21177 Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 I've been on 4 dates with a guy and all of them have gone pretty well. He asked me out on three of them and I asked him out on the fourth. However, he hasn't made any sort of move. He hasn't held my hand, kissed me, or said anything about liking me. He is occasionally shy but why hasn't anything happened yet? I really like this guy so should I try to initiate something or should I wait and see what he does?
mortensorchid Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 Shy? Some are, yes, to be sure. But a man who wants something is not afraid to get it. He's not that into you for whatever reason. Is he shy about other things in his life? I'm sure he's aggressive about SOMETHING, related to his career or sports teams or whatever else. If not, then he's just a dud of a man.
caitlinf33 Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 I wonder if we are dating the same guy!?! Met J online - we have been out 6-7 times. Hit it off instantly and he did all the date initiating. He was mildly flirtatious the first night we went out but then not so much as a sign he liked me for the next few dates. While frustrating, I figured it was nice to go out with a nice guy socially - I am new to town and don't have my bearings yet. Well finally on our last date, we kissed. Date 7 I believe! So I'd say if you like him, hang in there. See where it goes. Guess some guys just take longer to get their motor going??? 1
coolheadal Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 I've been on 4 dates with a guy and all of them have gone pretty well. He asked me out on three of them and I asked him out on the fourth. However, he hasn't made any sort of move. He hasn't held my hand, kissed me, or said anything about liking me. He is occasionally shy but why hasn't anything happened yet? I really like this guy so should I try to initiate something or should I wait and see what he does? Reach over to his hand hold his hand show you like him. See what happens next. Tell him you like him show it, express it.. Kick start it for him with you but only if you like him truly?
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 I feel your pain. My now husband didn't kiss me until our 4th date & I was fully prepared to dump him because of that. Reassess your own body language & wardrobe choices. I dressed in a very short skirt for our 4th date. Are you sure you are communicating that you want him to make a move? After all the PC stuff about women's rights & personal space some guys moved the pendulum too far back & are scared to make a move.
Kamille Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 My current guy kissed me on the fourth date. I thought it was obvious I was into him, but with hindsight I realize I might have been a bit shy. He kissed me after I ramped up the flirting.
BaileyB Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 My guy took a while to get things started too... But I'm glad that I waited.
CptInsano Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 I've been on 4 dates with a guy and all of them have gone pretty well. He asked me out on three of them and I asked him out on the fourth. However, he hasn't made any sort of move. He hasn't held my hand, kissed me, or said anything about liking me. He is occasionally shy but why hasn't anything happened yet? I really like this guy so should I try to initiate something or should I wait and see what he does? This may be a dumb question, but does he know you're dating? I once went out with a woman who I thought had no interest in me, or men in general, but she was perfect for attending events my friends would never go to. It took a long time for me to figure out that she thought we were dating. So ... could it be that he's thinking that he is spending time with a friend?
planb1973 Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 What kind of signals are you giving him? Are you flirting with him, touching his arm, showing with body language you are into him? Some guys don't pick up on the signals, and some women are terrible about giving proper signals. For example there is a woman I have been on a lot of dates with over months. We have never even made out. This last weekend we were out having a good time and talking about our dating lives when I asked "why have we never made out?" She asked why I never made a move. My response "Well every time I try to kiss you you turn your cheek, when I put my hand on your leg you ignore it, and if I move closer to you your body language tells me no" She apologized for being guarded and told me she had been wanting to jump me since the first date!?! So make sure you are giving him the proper signals that gives him the green light. After 4 dates I'm sure he is asking the same question you are.
smackie9 Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 Guy has no confidence.....you are going to have to make the first move and possibly several after that. If that isn't your style then tell him or stop seeing him.
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