Quokka Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 So yeah as the title say she keeps trying to make contact for the past two nights. We haven't spoken since we broke up two months ago and now she is reaching out. She'll call anytime after midnight which makes me think drinks are involved but it isn't like her to drunk call someone specially me because our break up was pretty bad. Guess I'm asking for what could be her reasons behind calling and texting me? I've been shading all of it and giving her no response. I guess I could answer but I don't owe her that consdering she did me wrong. I still love and care for her so that's why it even matters to me.
coolheadal Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 So yeah as the title say she keeps trying to make contact for the past two nights. We haven't spoken since we broke up two months ago and now she is reaching out. She'll call anytime after midnight which makes me think drinks are involved but it isn't like her to drunk call someone specially me because our break up was pretty bad. Guess I'm asking for what could be her reasons behind calling and texting me? I've been shading all of it and giving her no response. I guess I could answer but I don't owe her that consdering she did me wrong. I still love and care for her so that's why it even matters to me. She wants you back, pickup the phone and see what she has to say? if you still don't trust her then tell her your changing your number. You can block her you know there is software that does that for cells. I and to get one to I can see if they're real or fake. By-the-way what did you do to break up with you. Was it another guy?
Author Quokka Posted May 30, 2017 Author Posted May 30, 2017 (edited) She wants you back, pickup the phone and see what she has to say? if you still don't trust her then tell her your changing your number. You can block her you know there is software that does that for cells. I and to get one to I can see if they're real or fake. By-the-way what did you do to break up with you. Was it another guy? We've been friends for years in fact we were best friends with all the benefits and then we became exclusive while I was unemployed. I was living in her house and not really trying to look for work. She got bored and depressed with me sleeping all day and told me she needed someone who offers more and then started sleeping with another guy a week later. Idk if they actually slept together but I don't doubt it. She kicked him out two weeks later and as far as I know hasn't been with anyone since. And I'll add to this. I now have a good job making a lot of money and about to be able to afford my own place here soon so I guess she heard I'm doing good since her Mom keeps me on facebook Edited May 30, 2017 by Quokka
DashRiprock Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 Be super careful with this. Some (many) women will pull this stunt just to see if you respond. Basically, "If I ring the bell will the dog come running??" Many times if you respond in any way, the "thrill" or "challenge" is gone and they lose interest again. Really messed up I know, but it's fairly common with immature women. I speak from experience.
Author Quokka Posted May 30, 2017 Author Posted May 30, 2017 Be super careful with this. Some (many) women will pull this stunt just to see if you respond. Basically, "If I ring the bell will the dog come running??" Many times if you respond in any way, the "thrill" or "challenge" is gone and they lose interest again. Really messed up I know, but it's fairly common with immature women. I speak from experience. That's straight up how she is she'll want me so bad to the point of calling me and blowing up my phone then when I finally decide to give her a chance. Things are great for about a month then she hits me with the I need space and dissapears. I'm not going to answer. I mean I care enough that eventually I'm going to respond but right now i have to think about it. When the time comes that I actually reply to a phone call I'm just gonna tell her she's gotta change her ways if she really loves me and wants to be with me. She just don't know what to do when someone truly loves her like I do.
coolheadal Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 That's straight up how she is she'll want me so bad to the point of calling me and blowing up my phone then when I finally decide to give her a chance. Things are great for about a month then she hits me with the I need space and dissapears. I'm not going to answer. I mean I care enough that eventually I'm going to respond but right now i have to think about it. When the time comes that I actually reply to a phone call I'm just gonna tell her she's gotta change her ways if she really loves me and wants to be with me. She just don't know what to do when someone truly loves her like I do. You see you had history with her you didn't say this in your first post. So when you was out of work you she gone bored with you and then cheated on you with another guy. First when they cheat on you because of any silly reason. But to me you were out of work she supported you. Now you have job making money again and she wants to get back into you life after she rejected you. So the best bet is block her and have no more contact NC = no contact. You have tasted the waters with her and the end result was going down the drain. Blow her off and move on.. Get software for your phone block her so her calls go into a void along with SMS. Just don't need her hassle why tolerate her. Or you can say listen if you don't stop I am showing the police that you are harassment me to dead blowing-up my etc.. At some point you have to tell her to go the blank away..
Author Quokka Posted May 30, 2017 Author Posted May 30, 2017 You see you had history with her you didn't say this in your first post. So when you was out of work you she gone bored with you and then cheated on you with another guy. First when they cheat on you because of any silly reason. But to me you were out of work she supported you. Now you have job making money again and she wants to get back into you life after she rejected you. So the best bet is block her and have no more contact NC = no contact. You have tasted the waters with her and the end result was going down the drain. Blow her off and move on.. Get software for your phone block her so her calls go into a void along with SMS. Just don't need her hassle why tolerate her. Or you can say listen if you don't stop I am showing the police that you are harassment me to dead blowing-up my etc.. At some point you have to tell her to go the blank away.. I wish it was that easy. To just block and no contact. But we have been best friends since I was 15 I am now 21 and have slept together most of knowing each other. Me and her click. She is guilty of doing terrible **** to me. But she really is a good person deep down. She's been my main girl throughout high school and I was her main partner in her high schools years. Lots of history here and blocking her and moving on forever is so dramatic and drastic. I love her. every other partner I choose to try to date and be intimate with is so meaningless. She won't let me go either. She finds me. And I like it in a weird way.
Author Quokka Posted May 30, 2017 Author Posted May 30, 2017 You see you had history with her you didn't say this in your first post. So when you was out of work you she gone bored with you and then cheated on you with another guy. First when they cheat on you because of any silly reason. But to me you were out of work she supported you. Now you have job making money again and she wants to get back into you life after she rejected you. So the best bet is block her and have no more contact NC = no contact. You have tasted the waters with her and the end result was going down the drain. Blow her off and move on.. Get software for your phone block her so her calls go into a void along with SMS. Just don't need her hassle why tolerate her. Or you can say listen if you don't stop I am showing the police that you are harassment me to dead blowing-up my etc.. At some point you have to tell her to go the blank away.. Also I'm well aware this is a toxic relationship and terrible for my mental health but what do you do when you love someone more than yourself?
coolheadal Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 Also I'm well aware this is a toxic relationship and terrible for my mental health but what do you do when you love someone more than yourself? Well you said it, you love her still. But she wasn't there for you when you wasn't working. That's the issue I see you had with her plus she cheated with you too. Can't trust her because she can do it again and again. Sometimes without you know it. If you really want her back and really going to overlook her behavior then you have that right to choose her now as a Life Partner. You both are still pretty young Adults. Then call her back go and meet with her or have her come to where you are. Talk things out and see if you can come to some sort of understanding. Otherwise this texting and calling you won't stop with her. She's reaching out to you. Love can be so powerful and you two have that strong connection she's weak in relationships so you know that now. The rest is up to you. I can't hold hand and say what you need to do you have to it with her . Be the better person in this so call love triangle. Only if you want to be with her it sounds like you do but the other issue is bothering you the trust, faithful and loyalty.
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