Author simon_uk Posted August 5, 2005 Author Share Posted August 5, 2005 Yeah I think you may be right Chris, but I am fearful of making any moves in case I get shot down and hurt again! When I first met the ex, she had just split up from her husband, she left him. She (as far as I know) didnt keep in touch with him other than for important things like sorting out bills, belongings ets. Maybe it was because she was with me? Maybe she has not found anybody else hence the reason she keeps messaging me, if she had or does in the future maybe it will just stop. A lot of maybe's there so it is all speculation on my part really. The date went well, perhaps a little too well if I am honest and things went further than they should have done, I felt like I was cheating on a girl I havent seen for four months!!! Now I feel obliged to this other woman and I dont want to feel that way!!!! It was just nice to be intimate and feel wanted but I don't want commitment just yet. Is this bad??!!?!? Well actually I want the ex, maybe that is bad! simon Link to post Share on other sites
francis Posted August 5, 2005 Share Posted August 5, 2005 dont complicate things any further by involving someone else...its not fair on the other girl... take one thing at a time...you're not over your ex so its selfish to involve someone else in your life right now, who may really really like you... explain to the other girl your situation and tell her that now is not a good time... and then give yourself some time to sort out how you feel, to mend, to straighten things out or you risk sabotaging everything and ending up with neither girl Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 5, 2005 Share Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk Now I feel obliged to this other woman and I dont want to feel that way!!!! It was just nice to be intimate and feel wanted but I don't want commitment just yet. Is this bad??!!?!? Be kind to the new girl, Simon. Keep things slow... and if you realise you're not ready to move on yet, she needs to know this. Link to post Share on other sites
chris1063 Posted August 5, 2005 Share Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk Yeah I think you may be right Chris, but I am fearful of making any moves in case I get shot down and hurt again! When I first met the ex, she had just split up from her husband, she left him. She (as far as I know) didnt keep in touch with him other than for important things like sorting out bills, belongings ets. Maybe it was because she was with me? Maybe she has not found anybody else hence the reason she keeps messaging me, if she had or does in the future maybe it will just stop. A lot of maybe's there so it is all speculation on my part really. The date went well, perhaps a little too well if I am honest and things went further than they should have done, I felt like I was cheating on a girl I havent seen for four months!!! Now I feel obliged to this other woman and I dont want to feel that way!!!! It was just nice to be intimate and feel wanted but I don't want commitment just yet. Is this bad??!!?!? Well actually I want the ex, maybe that is bad! simon I have to agree with the other guys on this. I don't think you are ready for another relationship yet and it could end up being more hurtful than what you've got now. By all means see this new lady again but maybe set some ground rules as to how you want to progress things. We all want to feel loved and wanted again Simon - I know I do ! But i'm not ready for anything serious yet after 6 months either. Leave things alone for a while and see what happens but as i've said, if she messages you again I think you've got a decision to make one way or another. Good Luck Chris Link to post Share on other sites
pippen_2k Posted August 5, 2005 Share Posted August 5, 2005 You see how screwed it is now Simon? Even if she did come back to you, your always gonna have that barricade up and have that fear that she's gonna hurt you again... you cant maintain a proper relationship with them thoughts.. Its not your fault, its all hers for f***ing up what you guys had! Go out again with this new chick....at least she digs you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author simon_uk Posted August 5, 2005 Author Share Posted August 5, 2005 Thanks for the advice everyone! I have made it clear with the other girl. I mean I told her from the start that I was not over the ex and that I didnt want to get too involved. She understands and she is being very supportive. I must admit the intimacy was nice but afterwards I felt guilty. ????? anyway as I said earlier I did reply to the ex yesterday and not had anything else from her since. I really dont know what is going on so I am trying not to concern myself with it as hard as it is. It is her business not mine!!! as long as she doesnt try to hurt me I dont give a **** what she does. If she wants to try again she is going to have to say it not just send me random texts waiting for me to make a move if indeed that is what she is trying to do???? It is ****ed up!!!! Thank you everyone!!! Simon Link to post Share on other sites
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