Why do girls match guys on Tinder with no intention of replying to their messages?

[hercules22]

some people just swipe right on everyone to save time

[Redguitar35]

It sounds crazy to us males, but some women truly have low self esteem and derive their only satisfaction in life from that kind of attention, and once they get it they're on to the next dude who can give it to them.

 

Those types of women could not care less about being in a relationship or even sex with any man. They just want attention and validation. Dating apps are a breeding ground for these types. It took me a long time to learn and accept that.

 

Now if I send someone a message, I give them 12 hours to respond or be unmatched. And if they respond and in the course of our convo they seem wishy washy, I unmatch them there to. You have to learn to be a brutal as they are. Don't accept anyone wasting your time.

Edited June 3, 2017 by Redguitar35

[Imajerk17]

OP, you're 19 years old. Why aren't you trying to meet women via *real life*? Sheesh, kids these days!

 

Lest you think this advice is "off-topic", it's not. The girls in your age group--even the ones on Tinder--are meeting guys in school, from friends, parties. These "from real life" guys are likely the ones who are distracting your Tinder matches from getting back to you. Also, if you cannot attract a girl without an app, then you have little hope of getting anywhere w your Tinder dates.

[Redguitar35]

In fact, I think if these types of women did get around to having sex with someone, they wouldn't enjoy it much. It would be a secondary pleasure for them compared to the thrill they get from attention-seeking on these apps.

[NJ123]

They do it for attention/ego. It happened to me the other day where some girl replied once than never again. It's so obvious they're doing it for ego boosting.

[mortensorchid]

I have used Tinder in the past. I met a friend through it, he's a good guy and I care for him as a friend, but he was/is the exception. I gave it another go and found myself doing what most of us do with Tinder, which is just look at the picture of the person and then swipe left or right. Should you start actually conversing with the person then you look at the verbage on the profile and say "Oh no ..." More than half of the guys there are married or in a relationship and they are looking for a third to include in the fold, or blow you off once they have you chatting.

 

In general, Tinder is not a good thing, it's called a hook up app for a reason. As I determined with Bumble, the only difference is that women make the first move apparently on that one.

[NJ123]

I have used Tinder in the past. I met a friend through it, he's a good guy and I care for him as a friend, but he was/is the exception. I gave it another go and found myself doing what most of us do with Tinder, which is just look at the picture of the person and then swipe left or right. Should you start actually conversing with the person then you look at the verbage on the profile and say "Oh no ..." More than half of the guys there are married or in a relationship and they are looking for a third to include in the fold, or blow you off once they have you chatting.

 

In general, Tinder is not a good thing, it's called a hook up app for a reason. As I determined with Bumble, the only difference is that women make the first move apparently on that one.

 

Supposedly with Bumble women are more serious for relationships on that, but they're much more picky on who they match with.

[Mrlonelyone]

FWIW there have been a few times I'll be on Tinder just to pay with the app and see who I match. It is nice to be liked. However, liking someone's look is just that nothing more.

 

In short tinder is just a bit of fun flirting.

[dangerous]

Tinder is like any OLD site - its a numbers game - yes there are some genuines but lots of non-genuine.