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1fish2fish Established Member

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Good for you, Dis, for going for it, at least. You had doubts in the beginning, but you gave it a chance, and, like you said, it was only 2 weeks.

 

Sounds like 2 weeks is a fair investment for a good lesson learned. :)

 

Onward!

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I agree to all of the above girl ;)

 

Except I'm all the nice, sane, sweet guys seem to be hiding somewhere far far away.... Its not like I passed up on tons of nice, sane, sweet guys for him lol

 

I swear I don't get it! Come out here, I have a number of single friends I could set you up with. Could you put up with the work schedule of the PhD engineer / COO? or perhaps you wouldn't mind all the social events to attend with the commercial real estate guy. Maybe you like someone more laid back like my Santa Cruz friend who surfs in the morning before working at home for a local big tech company.

 

One thing I will say, I don't think any of them are on OLD.

 

But out here, where male to female ratios are skewed (and I have a big social circle of 20 to 30 somethings) I know a number of "nice" sane, successful guys who are open to finding "the one".

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Ewww glad you escaped.

 

I dated a guy like this and he turned completely crazy, conman, and ripped off many thousands of dollars from me in our 'relationship' of half year or so. Oh, he was also alcoholic and I was scared he'd drink himself to death or do something to kill himself... Fun times.

 

You're lucky you cut the cord:)

 

Hi guys! :D

 

I'm writing mostly to vent...and because this is a super entertaining story so I figured I'd give back to this wonderful community with a juicey read ;)

 

I made my last thread about a guy I wasnt sure I wanted to date. Got lots of no's but after hearing from some open minded posters and realizing I was analyzing everything to death...I decided to give him a shot...dun dun dun...

 

So everything was amazing for the first 2 weeks. We were exclusive (didnt have sex) Saw each other frequently. He seemed so kind and was really good to me. He seemed a little cooky but normal is a cycle on the washing machine so I wanted to give him a chance.... Blah blah

 

Last night he decided he wanted to cook for me. I go over and I notice he seems a little loopy. We were standing in his kitchen and he said, "What direction do you want to go in?" Given the context of our conversation his statement really didnt make sense so I asked him what he meant and he said, "Did you know I have wings?" I said..."What?" and then he starts to tell me he wants breakfast (its 7pm). He then picks me up, hugging me and almost drops me. I promptly pick up my purse and start to walk out. Horrible feeling in my gut

 

He follows me out saying he doesnt feel well and begs me to take his pulse???? I get pissed at this point (I hit my cat with my car 4 days prior. I couldnt find him for 10 hours. When I did I rushed him to the vet. His jaw was fractured. He went into sugery and now I have to tube feed him 5 times a day for 6 weeks until his jaw is set. Which is fine with me, I'm just so grateful he's ok:love:) I'm pissed that I scheduled my cats feedings and meds around so I could go to his house for dinner for this?! Dont mess with my cat dude...

 

He then begs me to take his pulse. I'm pissed but the nurse in me is actually worried so I take his pulse, its 88bpm. Totally fine. He is still rambling incoherent nonsense about me leaving early the other night and how that made him so upset he drank himself into oblivion last night....oh god

 

He told me could could channel spirits and wanted me to stay tonight so I could 'see it'....:eek:

 

I knew I was in a dangerous position so I take off and yup...thats my latest dating adventure

 

He's been calling and texting me. I'm running for the hills...never looking back

 

I'm not upset, I'm not berating myself for giving him a chance. It was 2 weeks...not much time lost...if time is ever lost. Once I saw the 'crazy' I took my leave. I really dont expect good things from dating anymore so this is just another story to add to the pile

 

All my OLDing profiles are deleted. I'll be taking a long, much deserved break. It'll happen when its meant to happen...I know that :)

 

For now I have safely escaped from the insane asylum :rolleyes:

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How about successful people that are dating only on OLD sites because they are too busy or hate socializing in groups to no end?

 

I agree there are many nice guys out there but I do believe OLD is a much better platform for meeting professionals than bars, clubs, networking events etc.

 

I swear I don't get it! Come out here, I have a number of single friends I could set you up with. Could you put up with the work schedule of the PhD engineer / COO? or perhaps you wouldn't mind all the social events to attend with the commercial real estate guy. Maybe you like someone more laid back like my Santa Cruz friend who surfs in the morning before working at home for a local big tech company.

 

One thing I will say, I don't think any of them are on OLD.

 

But out here, where male to female ratios are skewed (and I have a big social circle of 20 to 30 somethings) I know a number of "nice" sane, successful guys who are open to finding "the one".

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I swear I don't get it! Come out here, I have a number of single friends I could set you up with. Could you put up with the work schedule of the PhD engineer / COO? or perhaps you wouldn't mind all the social events to attend with the commercial real estate guy. Maybe you like someone more laid back like my Santa Cruz friend who surfs in the morning before working at home for a local big tech company.

 

One thing I will say, I don't think any of them are on OLD.

 

But out here, where male to female ratios are skewed (and I have a big social circle of 20 to 30 somethings) I know a number of "nice" sane, successful guys who are open to finding "the one".

 

This is so nice! I truly appreciate the offer! No one has offered to set me up (none of my friends no anyone to set me up with) your so sweet for thinking of me! :D

 

You live in cali? I live all the way in Connecticut :(

 

But I can tell you if it was sure thing, I'd make the move

 

I'm also starting to think, as both you and Shanex mentioned...that OLDing isnt the right platform for me. I dont think I'm going to meet my guy from a dating site

 

But since I dont have a big circle of friends and I dont go out a lot....I have no idea where to look or where to turn... :(

 

Any ideas???

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I'm like you - OLD isn't a good platform for me. I used to work in a jail, so I'd be tempted to run a background check on every date! lol (As it is, I do a public record's criminal search. It's just being smart.)

 

What do you like to do for fun? I know you don't have a lot of free time, but do you exercise? Like to ride your bike? Hike?

 

A good friend of mine told me that if I want someone smart, I need to go where smart people hang out. So I'm looking into volunteering a couple hours a week at the Smithsonian or with the Dept. of Natural Resources.

 

It only takes one step to get the ball rolling and opportunities to meet new people seem to open right up.

 

I joined a couple of Meetup groups, and while I haven't had time to attend any of the events, it's nice to have options of something to do.

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Good for you, Dis, for going for it, at least. You had doubts in the beginning, but you gave it a chance, and, like you said, it was only 2 weeks.

 

Sounds like 2 weeks is a fair investment for a good lesson learned. :)

 

Onward!

 

I'm like you - OLD isn't a good platform for me. I used to work in a jail, so I'd be tempted to run a background check on every date! lol (As it is, I do a public record's criminal search. It's just being smart.)

 

What do you like to do for fun? I know you don't have a lot of free time, but do you exercise? Like to ride your bike? Hike?

 

A good friend of mine told me that if I want someone smart, I need to go where smart people hang out. So I'm looking into volunteering a couple hours a week at the Smithsonian or with the Dept. of Natural Resources.

 

It only takes one step to get the ball rolling and opportunities to meet new people seem to open right up.

 

I joined a couple of Meetup groups, and while I haven't had time to attend any of the events, it's nice to have options of something to do.

 

Hey girl!! :D

 

Thanks so much for the encourgement and support! :bunny:

 

The bold resonates with me

 

I think I'm kind of hesistant to put myself out there and need a kick in the butt. I know my guy isnt going to fall in my lap...I'm going to have to take a page from your book and get out there

 

Good idea about volunteering. I dont think I want to do the whole bar scene for many reasons but the big one being guys dont approach me when I do go out

 

Maybe I could volunteer at an animal shelter. I have 4 cats and a bunny :bunny: so the guy I date is going to have to like animals lol

 

I think I'm going to set a new goal. By the 10th of June I'm going to have found a place to volunteer at and will have a start date. I'm going to post back here by that time to hold myself accountable. I wont be able to volunteer for long periods of time because I have to tube feed my cat 5 times a day for the next 6 weeks until his jaw is set and he can eat on his own again but a few hours is better than nothing!

 

Thanks for the push in the right direction! I needed it! :D

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I am so sorry about your cat! I have 2 kitty rescues, and although I wasn't a "cat person" initially, what do you do when a starving kitten shows up in your life? :laugh: I love them fiercely!

 

I'm also a bunny lover! I've had indoor bunnies, all litter box trained, for years and only recently decided to go rabbit-less for awhile after my last one passed away.

 

Anyway...I love your deadline/timeline, and I'm thinking I should do that for myself. I'm feeling pretty good and strong right now after 7 weeks NC from the addict ex bf, but I know emotions are fickle and I need to prepare myself for the next low (assuming it comes.) The best way to do that is to make plans and keep busy.

 

Ok, by June 15th, I will commit to attending at least 1 event in one of my Meetup groups. One of the groups is a travel-book group and in addition to discussing books, they also try out different international restaurants in the area. I always have time to eat, so I'm thinking about joining them for lunch at a Thai restaurant.

 

Here's to us and opening the door to possibility!

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Hey girl!! :D

 

Thanks so much for the encourgement and support! :bunny:

 

The bold resonates with me

 

I think I'm kind of hesistant to put myself out there and need a kick in the butt. I know my guy isnt going to fall in my lap...I'm going to have to take a page from your book and get out there

 

Good idea about volunteering. I dont think I want to do the whole bar scene for many reasons but the big one being guys dont approach me when I do go out

 

Maybe I could volunteer at an animal shelter. I have 4 cats and a bunny :bunny: so the guy I date is going to have to like animals lol

 

I think I'm going to set a new goal. By the 10th of June I'm going to have found a place to volunteer at and will have a start date. I'm going to post back here by that time to hold myself accountable. I wont be able to volunteer for long periods of time because I have to tube feed my cat 5 times a day for the next 6 weeks until his jaw is set and he can eat on his own again but a few hours is better than nothing!

 

Thanks for the push in the right direction! I needed it! :D

 

I don't mean to be a bubble buster but from my experience volunteering at animal shelters in terms of meeting a partner seems to be in favour of men. During my time there it seemed like there was a healthy selection of attractive women but the selection of men tended to be more of the...well, reclusive types. Again, just my experiences. What I would suggest that could be a better alternative is volunteering with homeless shelters. I've done that a couple times and have found there is quite a wide range of people, very much so due to the fact that corporations will have internally led volunteer groups.

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I don't mean to be a bubble buster but from my experience volunteering at animal shelters in terms of meeting a partner seems to be in favour of men. During my time there it seemed like there was a healthy selection of attractive women but the selection of men tended to be more of the...well, reclusive types. Again, just my experiences. What I would suggest that could be a better alternative is volunteering with homeless shelters. I've done that a couple times and have found there is quite a wide range of people, very much so due to the fact that corporations will have internally led volunteer groups.

 

 

One of the Meetup groups I joined makes sandwiches weekly for a local homeless shelter. I don't cook, but I think I can handle sandwich making. :) There's always a waiting list of volunteers, so I'll toss my name into the hat. Thanks for the tip!

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