How to get over a breakup?

[SomethingRandoms]

Hello.

So technically, I have spent all my time with my ex. Just this year, I became homeschooled, and I have no friends. My ex and I just relied on us for happiness. She always told me that she will never leave me for some random guy.

Now, about 2 weeks ago, she is really distant. Like, I always ask her why she is distant. Out Super BFF status on Snapchat instantly goes to BFF. That means that she has been talking to someone else, a LOT on snapchat. Then I ask her why she is distant, and she says that she was busy. That is a clear lie right there. She has been talking to someone a lot on snapchat. Then, she tells me we must just be friends. So then I ask her if there is someone else, she just msgs me with one word answers and says "idk". She doesn't wanna see me anymore and nothing. So now about 5 days ago, she dumps me and says that we can still be friends, and that our spark isn't there anymore. But I swear to ****ing god! I treated her like a princess. She was happy. And so was I. So I take the breakup fine, and still think that being friends will take some time. Then, she doesn't even msg me. Or want to see me. So now I do a bit of digging, she left me for someone else. He is hotter and taller. He is just 4 inches taller than me.

I talk to her about that, and say "did you leave me for him?".. And of course, one word answer. She said "idk". About a day after we break up, she is sexting this guy. She hasn't even met him! Then she said that we cannot be friends anymore, because she has lost interest in me. Now I am left here with pretty much no friends and homeschooled, and a broken heart. I am 17 years old, and not sure what steps to take next. Since she was distant, I got mild depression. But since she left me, for someone else, and doesn't even talk to me anymore, I have had really sever depression.

Any tips on how I can meet new people and just move on? It hurts so much.

Plus my ex and I always had something in place. If we ever breakup or have a fight, on her 20th birthday, we'd both msg each other. Either on Instagram, Facebook, Skype or Snapchat.

So how can I get over her and move on with my life? We spent all day with each other.. Now I am left with nothing. Just a heart shredded in pieces. And I also have a 348 day snapchat streak with her. She keeps sending me streaks, and I also send her streaks. But besides that, we have no communication. Do I stop the streaks? Or do I just let her think about if we should be friends? What do I do.

Being replaced by another guy, and still loving the girl more than anything else in the world, is the hardest thing I'll ever suffer.

Edited November 11, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[mightycpa]

Yes, you stop contact with her. Send her a snapchat to say goodbye. Pay tribute to your relationship, but don't make it sappy or maudlin. Just something like

Hey, I just wanted to say goodbye and thank you, it's been so much fun, and I really enjoyed our time together. I wasn't ready for it to end before, but now I am.

 

Goodbye and good luck!

You can either block her right then and there, or wait for her reply. She'll be a little taken aback by your message, so expect her to struggle a little about what to say. The quicker she replies, the less you mean to her. If she doesn't respond same day, I'd block her right before you go to bed. The reason is she may never reply, and you don't want to wait for a chat that's never going to come.

 

That's why you say goodbye, by the way. So that there is certainty on both ends. It's terrible when one person is left hanging. You know that because of the way she broke up with you. You're the better man, so show her.

Edited May 29, 2017 by mightycpa

[AlexM123]

Wooh man this honestly hurt me to read. Almost everything you said was what happened in my situation. Dumped me for someone else who was taller, wanted to be friends after and "promised" to never leave for some random guy who she's probably having sex with. I also don't have many friends and only a few years older than you so trust me I know how you feel! I'll try to help the best I can buddy

 

First of all, I understand you want to keep in contact and still be friends but that does nothing for you except give you false hope. And cut the Snapchat streak man! After my breakup i deleted her and blocked her on all social media and it's helped a ton. As for being replaced, that's totally about her and not you. You treated her like a princess and she decides to do this? This is a girl you'll be thankful that it ended instead of this happening years down the road. I know it's a shot to the ego but how I deal with it is realizing I gave the relationship my best shot and if she didn't feel it was enough that's her problem not mine. Do everything that'll ensure you wont come across her. (Delete pics, texts, social media etc..)

 

Now it might be different for everyone, but I feel like going to the gym and working out would really help you. Not only can you get a "revenge body" but you boost your self esteem and can even meet new people. Do everything you can to improve yourself and take this relationship as a lesson. Learn from it and in your next relationship (yes you'll find someone else!) use what you learned from this one. Doesn't seem like it now but this will pass and one day you'll look back and wonder why this affected you so much.

[SomethingRandoms]

Wooh man this honestly hurt me to read. Almost everything you said was what happened in my situation. Dumped me for someone else who was taller, wanted to be friends after and "promised" to never leave for some random guy who she's probably having sex with. I also don't have many friends and only a few years older than you so trust me I know how you feel! I'll try to help the best I can buddy

 

First of all, I understand you want to keep in contact and still be friends but that does nothing for you except give you false hope. And cut the Snapchat streak man! After my breakup i deleted her and blocked her on all social media and it's helped a ton. As for being replaced, that's totally about her and not you. You treated her like a princess and she decides to do this? This is a girl you'll be thankful that it ended instead of this happening years down the road. I know it's a shot to the ego but how I deal with it is realizing I gave the relationship my best shot and if she didn't feel it was enough that's her problem not mine. Do everything that'll ensure you wont come across her. (Delete pics, texts, social media etc..)

 

Now it might be different for everyone, but I feel like going to the gym and working out would really help you. Not only can you get a "revenge body" but you boost your self esteem and can even meet new people. Do everything you can to improve yourself and take this relationship as a lesson. Learn from it and in your next relationship (yes you'll find someone else!) use what you learned from this one. Doesn't seem like it now but this will pass and one day you'll look back and wonder why this affected you so much.

 

Thanks for the advice.She still gets jealous when I talk to girls or show interest. So what I was thinking is just to ignore her all the time, and then when I find a new girl to just post it on my story, so she can see that I am treating someone else how I treated her. Then after that I block her. Should I do that or just block? I was very hurt and now all I want is just a little bit of revenge.. What's your opinion on that?

[AlexM123]

Thanks for the advice.She still gets jealous when I talk to girls or show interest. So what I was thinking is just to ignore her all the time, and then when I find a new girl to just post it on my story, so she can see that I am treating someone else how I treated her. Then after that I block her. Should I do that or just block? I was very hurt and now all I want is just a little bit of revenge.. What's your opinion on that?

 

This is a tricky scenario. Well first I should ask does still being her on Snapchat and seeing her stories cause you sadness or anger? I've had the same revenge plan as you but if I would've seen a story of her and her new guy together I would've gone crazy. I don't see anything totally wrong with doing that although I'm sure a lot of people here would tell you to just forget about her completely including wanting to get revenge. The only thing I did (not too proud of) was putting a new selfie as my profile pic after I had been hitting the gym.