greenicon Posted May 29, 2017 Posted May 29, 2017 Just after some feedback really... I am due to go on a date later with a woman i've been chatting to from OLD. I got a text from her earlier that was meant for her best friend but sent to me in error. It basically confirmed that she was on a date and planning to date me later in the day.. She fessed up as soon as she had realised and asked me if I was ok with situation and the guy from date # 1 wasn't clicking with her. I thought about it for a while and said she was free to meet who she liked and I was ok with it to which she sounded grateful. I only tend to go exclusive once I click with somebody and sort of expect the same. We haven't met as of yet so it's not really for me to say.. I'm not sure I would ever arrange two dates in the same day though. That's just me, I know some people are fine with it. Defences gave gone up slightly. Just wondered what people thought about this?
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 29, 2017 Posted May 29, 2017 Her email indicated that she was meeting 'someone' else as well? Or she volunteered that information? I don't know, for a first date, I would prefer not knowing if there was another guy. It could be manipulative. For some, it may make them more eager to please instead of being themselves. I could see some using that to their advantage. It doesn't bother me. I've dated women who were dating others, but on the same day? It happens of course, but that would make my spidey senses tingle a tad-bit. Be yourself and make it easy on her to pick you. :-) As you admit, she has every right to date as many guys as she pleases at this stage.
smackie9 Posted May 29, 2017 Posted May 29, 2017 It is what it is....it just confirms that you need to communicate your expectations well in order to avoid any assumptions.
planb1973 Posted May 29, 2017 Posted May 29, 2017 Until there is a conversation about being exclusive I always assume others are dating others, especially within the fist few dates, AND if you met online then definitely they are dating others. What maters most is if you two click and decide to just see each other.
hippychick3 Posted May 29, 2017 Posted May 29, 2017 I see nothing wrong with it at all. Why should she be exclusive with someone she's just been talking to and hasn't met yet? And having two dates/first meets in one day is perfectly fine if the timing works out. I did it occasionally when I was first dating and meeting people. My schedule was such that I was only available certain days, so if I could "fit in" first meets that day, all the better. Once you're exclusively dating each other, it's a different story.
mortensorchid Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 I don't see anything wrong with the practice itself. Okay, she had two meet ups for the same day. She is going to see one during time slot A and another during time slot B. She doesn't know either of you guys, she is just cruising websites. You said you met her on some dating website. What's her last name? You don't even know that do you? As for her telling you that she has a plan with someone else, as in a DATE with you and that other person on the same day? Not cool. That would make the other person feel used. And ... If that's the case, if this was a long term situation and she is seeing two guys at once, then she's a user. If it's a short term like she's chatting with several people at once on a website and going to see A on Monday, B on Tuesday, C on Wednesday, etc., nothing wrong with that because it's all numbers at that point.
coolheadal Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 I feel there is nothing wrong dating more than one person at a time. I've done it many times. I am single, no kids, no baggage, no drama, and no games. I run into the worst of bunch of women. I got rid of them all now start a clean slate. I have zero tolerance for liars, cheats and still married those who want their cake and pie. So date who you want and until the right one just connects with you that's your made focus for now.
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