preraph Posted May 30, 2017 Posted May 30, 2017 He was telling you what he knew you wanted to hear, what all women want to hear, but then he found someone more convenient he liked better. Sorry. it sucks to be lied to. 1
Author Louisesarah Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 Do you think I could try to get him back again? He obviously liked me and found me attractive at some stage.. He openly admitted he has cheated in the past and I know he is fickle and has wandering eyes .. Is it worth a try?
springy Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 After 2 1/2 months he started being distant and not texting as much etc 3 days later he dissapeared ..he had a new girlfriend who lived 5 mins from him. I couldn't believe it,he did say many times he wished I lived closer but I didn't think he would dump me because of it. He didn't even end it properly he just ghosted me. This is a done deal. He has moved on.
Zahara Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 Do you think I could try to get him back again? He openly admitted he has cheated in the past and I know he is fickle and has wandering eyes .. Is it worth a try? Reread what you just wrote. I understand you are in denial but it's time to move on.
Minneloa Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 Do you think I could try to get him back again? He obviously liked me and found me attractive at some stage.. He openly admitted he has cheated in the past and I know he is fickle and has wandering eyes .. Is it worth a try? Why would you want him back, given that he didn't even have the common decency and respect to actually break up with you? Plus, he's an admitted cheater! Come on, OP. You deserve much, much better than this.
Author Louisesarah Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 I wish I knew why he chose her over me. Clearly he started talking to her when he was meant to be with me
Minneloa Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 This is crazy talk! I know you are hurting, but you need to set aside your emotions a bit to see that you dodged a bullet, specifically, a disloyal, disrespectful, uncommunicative manchild. Is that really who you want? 2
preraph Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 Do you think I could try to get him back again? He obviously liked me and found me attractive at some stage.. He openly admitted he has cheated in the past and I know he is fickle and has wandering eyes .. Is it worth a try? NO, it's not worth a try. You now know this guy is fickle and a cheater and just skips from one woman to another. If you even agree to take him back now, you will have given him permission to keep just leaving you whenever he wants to go sample another woman. He is not worth wanting back! He has hurt you and will continue to do so. Find a new man! 1
dumbass2 Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 It's happened to you twice now with the guy leaving you who lives a little too far away. No, you don't try to get back with this one, you try to find someone a little closer. This appears to have been a deal breaker for them. This one just didn't seem like a good match. Have you tried to address your issues about driving?
Author Louisesarah Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 It's happened to you twice now with the guy leaving you who lives a little too far away. No, you don't try to get back with this one, you try to find someone a little closer. This appears to have been a deal breaker for them. This one just didn't seem like a good match. Have you tried to address your issues about driving? I haven't no,I really miss driving too,I miss the freedom etc I really think he hated the commute to me after a day at work etc He just wanted someone he could pop in on anytime ..that would never of changed and probably wouldn't have worked out
Neel Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 I haven't no,I really miss driving too,I miss the freedom etc I really think he hated the commute to me after a day at work etc He just wanted someone he could pop in on anytime ..that would never of changed and probably wouldn't have worked out What the previous people said were without doubt words of help. However, the bonds we create between us, are deriving from the soul. The soul controls the body and the heart. The mind is only the expressor of any feeling. This is why you cannot "cheat" the soul and push away the feelings. If you feel that this person is important to you despite the way you get treated, what you should do is not to ignore your innersoul and try something locally. It doesn't come with a switch which you can turn on and off anytime. This is not what you want. You cannot define who you love. If that was the case, love would never have existed. Therefore in order not to crush your soul negatively but be fair to it, what you can do is check and see this person even better (try texting and have judgement) - BUT without getting attached to it and under no circumstance becoming his puppet. (This is a warning!) Use logic and let feelings flow but having control on them. Eventually - if this person continues mistreating you, not respecting you or lying to you - you alone will start moving towards another direction. PS: "The living closer" card that is being played, is a distraction. Do not believe that by being closer or totally together you magically shut down the danger of being dumped. The dumping/breakup occurs in the soul and not in the body.
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