Setting the record straight on STRIP CLUBS! Ladies, get in here!!!

[Forget About Her]

I've read several threads regarding women complaining about the dreaded, dun dun dun...STRIP CLUB! Listen up good ladies, strip clubs have NOTHING to do with your man being unsatisfied with you or your body. Men do not go to strip clubs to get lucky or have sex with women, b/c in all honesty, it is harder to pick up a stripper at a strip club than it is to pick up some random 'slut' at a regular club. Strip clubs are about bonding with your boys, unless your man goes there alone, then you have some issues.

 

But whenever I go to a strip club with my buddies, its about being out with your bud's and having a good time. Believe it or not, the girls are a secondary attraction. A strip club is a unique environment and for the most part, it has a very fun, laid back atmosphere. Nobody is embarrassed about anything, because ****, there are naked women walking around everywhere. It's not like your man can go up and feel all over the girl, or his ass will get tossed out of the club and most likely catch an ass whipping as well.

 

I've only had one girlfriend ever reluctant about me going to strip clubs. I asked her to come out with us one night and when she did, she apologized for giving me **** and now she doesn't bat an eye, after seeing what goes on. It's really not that bad, it has nothing to do with not being satisfied. If you are really that concerned, go with him and his boy's one night to see how it is.

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by Forget About Her

But whenever I go to a strip club with my buddies, its about being out with your bud's and having a good time. Believe it or not, the girls are a secondary attraction.

 

Of course it is. I'm sure you hardly even look at the naked girls

 

I worked with a guy once who explained his strip club habit by saying how cheap the food was and what good quality. He hardly noticed the girls...

[aares]

Maybe I can chime in because my good friend's dad owns a popular strip joint near me. I am a regular there, about once a week because the strippers are nice women...and what was said before about them being a secondary attraction, is somewhat true. If your boy is with a bunch of his friends, they will make the strippers a secondary attraction. If he goes alone, obviously the girls will have all of his attention.

 

I now go to the strip club to lean about the business...I really dont even notice the strippers anymore. I see so many people there having a good time, and about 15-20% of the guys that I see there are the ones who are right at the stage the entire time, like they never have seen some cooch before throwing them bills on the stage. The rest just sit back and talk and laugh and play pool. Of course some clubs are sleazy and they ahve dirtball hoes who provide "other" services, but those are usually the places that get closed quickly.

[quankanne]

and just who are you trying to fool?

 

if women were all right with the idea of their men (SO, BF, DH) going to and hanging out on a regular basis where chicks dance and get nekkid for them, they wouldn't be so upset about it. However, it has less to do with your need to "bond" with your buddies and more to do with the kind of loyalty you're bringing to y'alls relationship. Because if she's giving up the opportunity to meet or date other men for a committed relationship with you, it's only expected that you reciprocate – as I tell my husband, I don't ask anything of him that I don't ask of or give myself.

 

besides, if the dancing nekkid chicks are no big deal, then why is it so important for some guys to have to go there at all? If you're busy bonding, you wouldn't need to have to spend time in places like that, no matter how nice the dancers are. Because if you're going somewhere (be it a club or a website or a magazine) that you're looking at other women prance around with little or no clothes on, your intentions are not above board, and your woman knows this.

 

I honestly don't think that trying to justify this kind of behavior in a post is going to cut it when you're addressing a group of people who understand that a commitment to a relationship is about being loyal and cutting out the selfish crap like hanging out in strip clubs, unless it's something the couple mutually agrees upon doing.

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by aares

I now go to the strip club to lean about the business...I really dont even notice the strippers anymore.

 

That's a new one. But of course - hanging out in a strip club is almost as good as an MBA. You'll be the one at the back with the notebook and calculator

 

 

Of course some clubs are sleazy and they ahve dirtball hoes who provide "other" services

 

Tragic. But isn't that always the way... an irresponsible minority giving the respectable ones a bad name

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by quankanne

and just who are you trying to fool?

 

Primarily themselves, I suspect.

 

OK guys, I'll get off your case now. It's your business if you go to a strip club. Just don't expect me or your girlfriend to think it's high and noble.

[lindya]

Maybe there would be less fuss if there were equivalent places for women. A women's club where all the staff were half naked, very fit guys sounds quite nice to me. Wouldn't happen, though, because within the week it would turn into a gay bar.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by aares

Of course some clubs are sleazy and they ahve dirtball hoes who provide "other" services, but those are usually the places that get closed quickly.

Incorrect AARES....for your friends dad being in the business you know very little about it. The high-class joints have the same sheeyot going on, the only thing is the price of admission is higher for the dudes cause the women are hotter.

 

If a dude can provide cocaine and money he can get these "high-class" strippers to do almost anything, provided it is done off the grounds of the club.

[scratch]

Originally posted by quankanne

I honestly don't think that trying to justify this kind of behavior in a post is going to cut it when you're addressing a group of people who understand that a commitment to a relationship is about being loyal and cutting out the selfish crap like hanging out in strip clubs, unless it's something the couple mutually agrees upon doing.

 

Do you seriously not see the difference between going along and going with a group? Is there any social activity you do with your friends where the focus is more on the activity than the interaction between you and your friends? I should hope not.

 

Over half of the time I go to a strip club, it's with a date. That is far more fun that going with a buddy, or even a group of them. Guys with girls in tow are far cooler and more comfortable than guys without, unless they are insecure, easily embarassed, or up to no good.

 

If you, as a woman, don't like the idea of your man going to a place like that, go with him. If you feel that's beneath you, without ever even trying, feel free to STFU.

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by lindya

Maybe there would be less fuss if there were equivalent places for women.

 

If you were my gf, there'd be even more fuss if you started hanging out somewhere like this...

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by Forget About Her

Strip clubs are about bonding with your boys

 

What kind of strip clubs do you go into ??

 

Baseball is for bonding the the guys..

Sports bars on Friday nights are for bonding with the guys...

 

Strip clubs sell sex and only sell sex... They don't sell guy bonding.. HAHA

 

you sound like a PR spokesman for a strip club

[scratch]

Originally posted by lindya

Maybe there would be less fuss if there were equivalent places for women. A women's club where all the staff were half naked, very fit guys sounds quite nice to me. Wouldn't happen, though, because within the week it would turn into a gay bar.

 

1. These places do exist, and men are barred from entering, even if they wish to pay for admission.

 

2. Why would it naturally turn into a gay bar? Is it a matter of money? Flesh out your reasoning.

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by scratch

Over half of the time I go to a strip club, it's with a date.

 

Thus solving the mystery of what a catch like you is doing on a site like this

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by alphamale

Incorrect AARES....for your friends dad being in the business you know very little about it.

 

He's too busy with work on his MBA.... checking out the "figures", watching out for "exposure" and checking out the "bottom line"

[scratch]

Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo

Thus solving the mystery of what a catch like you is doing on a site like this

 

I'm here because I am a bad guy who exposes women to mysogynistic environments, is that your point? That is true, in large part.

 

On the other hand, you're a kind, charming, respectful guy. Despite those strengths, you're here too, imagine that!

 

Welcome to the internet, ladies and gentlemen. Who would you like to be today?

[Forget About Her]

For the women that are questioning me, why would I come on here and try and sell myself to you? I'm being completely honest, you girls just can't accept the fact that not every guy goes to strip clubs to get laid. When I go with my boys, we are usually talking amongst ourselves more than we are focusing on all the girls. We go, have a few rounds of drinks, make fun of the girls that come up to our table and try to get us to buy dances from them.

 

If your man goes to strip clubs by himself, then you probably have something to worry about. It has nothing to do with you not satisfying him, or not being attractive enough for him. If he is willing to pay $300+ to get laid by another chick, then you dont want his ass anyway. You over-dramatic women make way to big of an issue when your man goes to the strip club with his boys, period!

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by scratch

I'm here because I am a bad guy who exposes women to mysogynistic environments, is that your point? That is true, in large part.

 

On the other hand, you're a kind, charming, respectful guy. Despite those strengths, you're here too, imagine that!

 

I guess Alpha will be trying to blend our DNA to make the perfect nice guy/bad boy ladykiller

[Forget About Her]

ReluctantRomeo most likely frequents the all-male strip clubs.

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by Forget About Her

ReluctantRomeo most likely frequents the all-male strip clubs.

 

Your repartee needs a little work, I feel....

[EnigmaXOXO]

And when I go to male strip clubs with my horny gal pals…it's only for the female bonding. We're dressed to nines not to catch the attention of that sexy Adonis dancing on our table and drooling down our cleavage…it's just our only opportunity to gussy up, go out on the town and celebrate our femininity.

 

The only reason I shove my hard-earned money into some guy's g-string is because he works hard to make an honest living. It has absolutely nothing at all to do with the fact that I'm paying for a little extra attention.

 

And when that well-muscled stripper grabs the back of my head and humps my face with his crotch, I'm only hanging onto his bare ayas because I can't breath. Besides, it gets me all hot and bothered so I can go home and take out my sexual tension on my boyfriend.

 

But I can't figure out for the life of me why my partner complains that my face smells like some other guy's sweaty nads. (???) You'd think he'd appreciate the fact that while I might be getting turned on by other guys…I'm still bringing it home to him.

 

Some guys are just narrow-minded and insecure, I guess.

[Forget About Her]

A lot of close minded insecure women in this thread. Support education, tip well at strip clubs!

[ReluctantRomeo]

Originally posted by EnigmaXOXO

And when I go to male strip clubs with my horny gal pals…it's only for the female bonding. We're dressed to nines not to catch the attention of that sexy Adonis dancing on our table and drooling down our cleavage…it's just our only opportunity to gussy up, go out on the town and celebrate our femininity.

 

Surely you should wear as little as possible, just to blend in? It's only polite

[scratch]

Originally posted by Forget About Her

A lot of close minded insecure women in this thread. Support education, tip well at strip clubs!

 

Dude, let's not get carried away. These are not the future teachers of America.

 

Just because Bambi licks your ear and says she doesn't have three kids and a coke habit, but is working her way through Wellesley, that doesn't make it the truth.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo

I guess Alpha will be trying to blend our DNA to make the perfect nice guy/bad boy ladykiller

[Merin]

Strip Clubs...

 

Well I've been to a Strip Club... I went there with one of my Best Friends, her BF and his buddies... LOL It was actually pretty interesting... the Guys that were there were hitting on me and my GF AND much to my Girls BF's suprise she bought him a lap dance The Strippers that were there... a few of them were cool and nice to me and my Friend BUT a couple of them were just pissed off that we were there to begin with.

 

I've also dated a Male Stipper... he didn't work in a club but he worked for a company called Hard Bodies. He did private parties... I didn't really mind that he was a Stripper but I also didn't take him serious as a "Partner" so to speak... I found him to be very insecure and needed constant reassurance that he was nice looking this, that, the other.

 

My BF now has gone to the strip club on a couple of occassions with his Friends and I'm okay with that... I suppose I would feel different about it if he was going there on a constant basis (like he walks in and they all know him by name LOL) or if he was trying to hook up BUT again I would be pissed if he was trying to hook up regardless of where he is.