whatwhit Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Maybe you guys can help me know what kind of expectations I should go in with when it comes to first dates. And cues that help me know if someone is interested! Met this guy yesterday for lunch - conversation seemed to flow well, he offered to walk me to my car, I suggested hanging out again he said he would like to, and brought it up again - the past couple of first dates have not led to kisses, not sure if I should expect that or think it's a bad sign if it doesn't happen. I think it would be awkward to have one a lunch date. He texted me afterwards and said I had fun today ! Have fun at your friends birthday dinner. To which I responded meet to (first name) currently have marg while we wait for our seat and he didn't respond. Should I text him sometime later in week to see if he wants meet up! I guess I should have more of a care free attitude.
smackie9 Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Leading up to a kiss would mean you had a very intense connection.....you just had lunch. Lunch dates are well not that intimate. Try getting dates where you dress up a little bit to show off yer sexy legs, have some cocktails to loosen up and it lasts long than an hour. Cues: having a lot in common, lots of laughter, feeling of ease, strong eye contact, light touching, smiles a lot, asks you a lot of questions about yourself, talks about wanting to see you again or makes comment how he enjoyed the date, maybe gives you a compliment.
Author whatwhit Posted May 28, 2017 Author Posted May 28, 2017 So I mean, in this dating instance I guess he already did the reaching out - him not responding afterward I guess is making me anxious. If don't hear from him by say Wednesday would it be appropriate to ask if he'd like to hang again this weekend?
smackie9 Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 (edited) So I mean, in this dating instance I guess he already did the reaching out - him not responding afterward I guess is making me anxious. If don't hear from him by say Wednesday would it be appropriate to ask if he'd like to hang again this weekend? Most women on here would say if you don't hear from him then he isn't interested. BUT hey what would it hurt if you ask him out....it's a modern age. If you want things to go past the first date, you need to respond to his text flirtatiously. The response you gave him may have been taken as you diverting from what the intent of the text was about. He wanted to know if the feeling was mutual. You should have responded with "I had a great time too!" followed by some cute emojis. Even throw in there that you hope to spend more time together next time you meet. Edited May 28, 2017 by smackie9
Ami1uwant Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 So I mean, in this dating instance I guess he already did the reaching out - him not responding afterward I guess is making me anxious. If don't hear from him by say Wednesday would it be appropriate to ask if he'd like to hang again this weekend? The date was yesterday---give him a couple of days. unsure if you talked about plans for this weekend and what each of you were doing. If he said he was busy or you were busy he wasnt going to try and talk to you at hose times. Never expect a kiss on a first meet u which this was. Can it happen---sure---usually because there was some sort of instant chemistry. Even then its hard to read if the other is being nice and polite vs interest. As a guy my rule of thumb in kissing---if wee were to walk around and end up holding hands, then I will be more willing to possibly try to kiss her. If that didnt happen on a first date but we had good conversation then I would still want to date her again.
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