blackleopard Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 So hello people I met this girl out in town on Thursday. I had seen her a few times during the night and had had the biggest crush on her ever since I first saw her!!! (at that point I didn't know who she was, and that we had a mutual friend) We crossed each other's paths a few time and I'm pretty sure she had noticed me because we smiled at each other once or twice. At one point during the night I thought to myself that I had to talk to her, if not I would just regret it. So I went up to her and introduced myself. I felt like we had a great connection and chatted for around ten minutes. She was very responsive to everything I said and smiled a lot. She said that she had heard good things about me from her friend, that I was a gentleman and that she really liked that about me. She seemed ''kissable'' but I didn't want to appear as all the other guys trying to get in her pants. Then the girl that I knew arrived and said that this was her best friend, and that she had boyfriend, apparently. The girl I liked then proceeded to say to her friend ''no stop it - shhh'' twice, and I then asked her directly, so do you have a boyfriend or not, and she said no. I then asked my friend, who told me that she indeed did, but that it was not going well between them. I resumed my conversation with the girl, and said I wanted to meet her again another time, and asked if we could exchange numbers or something. She said ''write me tomorrow'', and was like alright enjoy the rest of the evening. ---------------- So the next day (yesterday) I wrote her and here's the conversation : Me : Hey you nice to meet you last night Her : Yes, likewise Me: Hungover? Her: Yes, alot! :/ Me: Haha, then I'm not the only one Her: Haha no ! Me: Hey I was supposed to go rock climbing tomorrow, but my friend just said he's sick. What about a walk in the botanical gardens, I've been wanting to go for a while - plus i'd be nice to meet you in a calm environment where one can actually hear others talk, see who you are I'm a bit direct, but not fond of getting to know someone via text. Do you have plans? Her: It sounds super cozy! I just have work the whole weekend :/ Me: Hehe alright, enjoy the rest of the weekend then Her: Thank you, you too ------------------- So I'd like advice as to how to proceed from now on. I'm only writing here because I'm so into this girl and I don't want to **** up. I realize that her response counts as one rejection, and I guess it's only appropriate to ask one last time. Should I wait until Sunday/Monday evening ask her when she has time ? Or should I wait a week, or try to chat some more ? A friend of mine says I have to play these mind games about not caring too much and all, but I don't feel like it - I just want to be direct and ask her when she has time. What should I say... I don't know, help me? I'd appreciate any input or advice
preraph Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 So get this over with. Write her back already and ask her if there is a day next week she'd like to go do something. If she still has excuses, she's decided she's not interested (and maybe she doesn't have an official boyfriend, but my guess is she's got her eye on one she's interested in).
smackie9 Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Hold off on contacting her....leave her sitting at the edge of her seat so to speak. If she feels she's losing her grip on you, she's going to want you even more. I know it's a hard thing to do, but please be patient. IMO you already have this in the bag, and you should be confident that she ain't going anywhere. Be spontaneous and hit her up last min to meet up at a cocktail bar that is dark and has a good atmosphere or contact her late like at 10pm and ask her if she wants to go for a walk along the beach, park or some quiet place that costs no money....somewhere you can sit and talk like in your car. Maybe even an outdoor cafe. Just some suggestions that is all. Just don't over do it. Be cool and aloof, then give her a little attention, but make sure it's intense. Then pull back.
Author blackleopard Posted May 28, 2017 Author Posted May 28, 2017 Haha, you guys have to completely opposite advice I'm confused
preraph Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Either one of these approaches will work if she's interested. If she's not interested, neither of them will work.
Author blackleopard Posted May 28, 2017 Author Posted May 28, 2017 (edited) Hold off on contacting her....leave her sitting at the edge of her seat so to speak. If she feels she's losing her grip on you, she's going to want you even more. But there is absolutely no way of knowing whether that's true. Maybe she neither cares nor thinks about me at all... Edited May 28, 2017 by blackleopard
healing light Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 I'd write her back and ask her if there's another day or time in the coming week or two when she would be free to get together. Personally, if I were asked out last minute late at night I would think I was an afterthought and a booty call. 1
morrowrd Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Get it over with. Ask her on a Wednesday, say you want to go do something fun with her. (have a plan) Ask her if she is free this weekend, and see what she says. Girls who are interested in you will present you with a "yellow brick road" into their world. If they aren't interested, you'll know. Excuses/reasons why they can't get together will be a polite way to extract themselves. Just be ready to respect those wishes....although I hope you win. 1
Author blackleopard Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 Well, I wrote her again Monday at 7PM, but she never opened my message... So I guess it's dead Not much I can do
Scarlett.O'hara Posted May 31, 2017 Posted May 31, 2017 It isn't surprising that she is behaving this way if she is already in a relationship. It was pretty obvious she was lying. The reality is that she was intoxicated and enjoying the attention. Now that she has sobered up she is brushing it off as a bit of harmless fun that she would rather forget. She may be cute, but would you honestly want a girlfriend with such poor boundaries when she drinks? She doesn't sound very trustworthy.
Author blackleopard Posted May 31, 2017 Author Posted May 31, 2017 Yeah, I know. Still makes me sad - And I knew it would turn out like this... always does I guess I'll send her a last message sometime, who knows, but damn I hate it when girls do that
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