Fresnite Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 Ok, so in this current era of pop culture, social dynamics and dating are different from 10 years ago. I have a date tomorrow with a woman I like a lot, we bonded well over talking. A friend hooked me up with her, we exchanged a lot of pics and had real meaningful convo. We both want a ltr. I asked her out for tomorrow and said dinner, then i said or lunch/coffee if that works better. She said dinner, I'm picking her up at 6:30. What type of place should i take her too? I want to take her to like a step above olive garden type restraunt. But not sure if that's too much. I mean we both are interested in making a relationship work, so we are beyond the "friend zone" Thanks to all my online love shack friends!
Shanex Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 This one is easy and me thinks you are slightly over thinking it. Olive garden, Bubba Gump, the Asian buffet could be good enough as this is a first date. This boils down to what kind of food and drinks yall like. What's available in your area? Big city or rural?
RecentChange Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 I am going to sound like a freaking snob...... Perhaps I would pass on any chain restaurants. Sub par food, and even worse atmosphere. What part of the country are you in? Any bistros or cafes with some nice outdoor seating? Some place that would allow for private conversations and perhaps a bit of flirting? A place where you could linger after your meal and enjoy a drink or two would be a good idea. For me, a cafe near a river walk, or a center square, or a place with a bit of a view - away from the strip malls is what I would lean to. But I understand certain parts of the country do not have as many options. 1
Author Fresnite Posted May 27, 2017 Author Posted May 27, 2017 What part of the country are you in? Any bistros or cafes with some nice outdoor seating? What's available in your area? Big city or rural? Around the Buffalo & Rochester NY areas. Basically upstate New York. Both big city and urban areas. Thanks for your replies too.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 Ok, so in this current era of pop culture, social dynamics and dating are different from 10 years ago. I don't think this applies to where you go to eat. My MO is to go for something quick with the option to extend. That is, go to get coffee or an ice cream to see if we'd like to prolong or continue. But, since you already have a dinner date, I would go to a fun, whole in the wall place where HER favorite food is served. You can always find something you like, but I find out what SHE likes and find something unusual or less-chainy. Having a meal al fresco is fine as long as it is not too hot/humid and the mosquitoes are not out. Good luck! 1
rushed Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 I second what RecentChange wrote. Also, unless it's a place that takes reservations, stay away from places that are super crowded. The standing around waiting might be awkward especially if there's no place at the bar. 1
basil67 Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 A definite no to a chain restaurant. Perhaps there's a cheap and cheerful Thai near you? Or an outdoor bistro? 2
HereNorThere Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 (edited) The trick is to find somewhere with some atmosphere and things to do besides eating. Stay away from chains cause as you can see, chicks are judgmental. Look for local trendy, hipsterish, sandwich and coffee or foodie type places with sidewalk patios. The type of place bring their dogs and stuff. Get there about 5 to 10 minutes early at least and build rapport with your server. A smart man always slips her 5 to 10 bucks early and introduces himself. That way by the time your date arrives, the social interaction is already going and you get special treatment. *Dont go too fancy on a first date, that's a rookie mistake. It signals overinvestement and desperation. Do not assume she's already into you. Everything resets the first time you actually meet. You need something to do besides eat. Otherwise it's going to feel like an interview. Order an assortment of appetizers so you have something to comment on. Use your menu as a distraction from the constant eye contact. Make comments about it, ask questions, etc. Do not make the mistake of being directly across from each other, eyeball to eyeball, trying to fill the void with questions. Make comments instead. If you can find a place with a view, even better. You need the distractions to take the pressure off. Tilt your seat slightly away from hers. Make a list now of funny topics, etc so you have something to talk about. When she arrives, hit the ground running. Start the conversation by continuing a previous conversation you were already having. This will bridge your online persona to your IRL one. Give her space to look away. The constant eye contact thing is a romance killer. She will mimic your actions, so if you're nervous, she will be too. If you're confident and relaxed, she'll go with that vibe. Body language is very important. Stay open, take up space, don't fidget. Google how to do that. Don't draw it out too long. If you sense she's into you, bounce locations when you're finished. Have a preset location like an outdoor market, park, whatever already in your mind. Mention you're thinking about going there later and ask if she'd like to join BUT you can't stay out too long (false time constraint) so she feels less pressured. Maybe have something you need to buy that she can help you pick out. That's a good conversation topic AND a reason to continue the date after dinner, win/win. Not that I've done this before Edited May 28, 2017 by HereNorThere 1
GemmaUK Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 I mean we both are interested in making a relationship work, so we are beyond the "friend zone" I agree with the others to take her somewhere unique but that can still not be over the top expensive. The part I quoted though - don't count on this becoming a relationship - you haven't yet met her (you say you've exchanged pics and talked) so you both have no idea whether there will be any attraction much the same as any date from OLD. 1
Author Fresnite Posted May 29, 2017 Author Posted May 29, 2017 Thanks everyone. Update. It went amazing. Went to a sushi place. Oh my god. We hit it off so well. The good bye kiss, was a good bye make out session times 3 lolololol that was with fish breath lmao. We went for a walk to along the canal and got ice cream afterward. We held hands. But nah, for real though we enjoyed ourselves and really are into each other. 1
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