Loveair Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 I dressed up for a date, a better weekday outfit. With great hair and makeup on spot. On the way to the date, random guys gave me compliments. The guy I met was great but didn't say anything about my looks for our two dates, and he doesn't seem shy. Even shy guys have been complimenting me, even if it's by text. This made me upset, it's a big turn off for me. And I don't want to compliment a guy before he does. Is it normal to feel like this or do I seem shallow? Normally I'm a down to earth girl.
CptInsano Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 Not every guy expresses it the same way, and not every guy is into a very dressed-up look. Did he respond to you enthusiastically, otherwise? I mean, I understood that you put effort into it and would like him to appreciate. But isn't it the main question of whether he was into you and showed it? 3
todreaminblue Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 i second what insano said someguys dont validate your look and show they like you in other ways....deb 2
BaileyB Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 My guy is wonderful in so many ways, but he never tells me that I look nice. He will remember what I wore after the fact, so he noticed... but he will never tell me that I look nice in the moment. It's just, not his thing... You need to decide if this is something that you need, or not. Because, it's likely that it's just not his thing. 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 27, 2017 Posted May 27, 2017 Loveair, Listen to the earlier posts. Some guys simply don't verbally express how they feel you look. Pay attention to their mannerisms, visual expressions and how they are with you in terms of physical space, proximity. Actions speak louder than words, no? 1
grays Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 And I don't want to compliment a guy before he does. Why??? Im not sure why its the guy's responsibility to compliment first. If you both have this rule... 2
basil67 Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Have you heard of the Five Love Languages? Words of Affirmation is one of them. This is clearly something which is important to you. The others are Quality Time, Acts of Service, Gift Giving and Physical touch. Of course, we can have varying degrees of these, but most of us fit into one or two categories. You may find that this guy shows his affection in ways other than Words of Affirmation. So, have a look beyond your love language and hopefully you will see that he's showing you he's interested in other ways. 1
Chilli Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Or he might just wanna see who you are first. l don't just go telling her how nice she looks straight up, there's plenty of sucking morons and desperado's out there to stroke her ego. l wanna get to know who she is a bit first and whether she deserves it or not. And a lot of women are the same, they don't just go telling you stuff like that straight off you gotta earn their trust first, l respect that. Some girls just thrive on it and can't go 5mins without someone telling them how good they look. Give it more time , he might just be well worth the wait in the end. Or , he just mightn't be into you. 1
preraph Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Some guys choke on things like compliments and saying I love you because it embarrasses them. Don't think anything of it. A lot of compliments are just a fake gesture anyway. If he asks you out again, that will be a compliment that means something. Good luck.
smackie9 Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Just my opinion but when a lady goes out of her way to look good for her date, it's only polite to give her a compliment. It's good manners. 1
amaysngrace Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 I dated a guy for a while who wouldn't give compliments because he gave them to his exWife all the time and he thought she became conceited because of that which is why she cheated on him. Maybe your guy thinks this too.
basil67 Posted May 28, 2017 Posted May 28, 2017 Another thought: with so many men telling you how fabulous you look, does the compliment still have any meaning to you?
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