Grey40 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Here's the conversation, seemed ok but hard to tell, never had a girl act so enthused. Me: hey so for Saturday I was thinking we could get some dinner at xxx and then check out some spots afterward, I can pick you up at 639 sound good? Her: I think I'd rather meet you there but the time sounds good and everything. Me: ok no problem how's does Mediterranean sound? Her: sounds good to me Me: ok cool there's this place xxx that's really good so I'll meet you there at 639 then. If you need directions let me know Her: okie doke.. sounds good
Imajerk17 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 So setting up the date at some random minute like 639...is this some PUA tactic to stand out? I hate to sound like a downer OP but I'm not seeing where her extra enthusiasm is though. She wants to meet you there instead of having you pick her up, which isn't a great sign. It sounds to me that she is on the fence about you. No matter. You do have the date set up, which is good. Have fun.
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 What part of that is giving you pause? For early dates most savvy women want their own transportation just in case the date is bad, so he doesn't know exactly where she lives & so she doesn't have to make small talk while trapped in a car with a stranger. 1
Author Grey40 Posted May 25, 2017 Author Posted May 25, 2017 Lol 639 was a typo I said 630. This is our second date so I thought it was weird she wouldn't let me pick her up.
selinaluv Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Lol 639 was a typo I said 630. This is our second date so I thought it was weird she wouldn't let me pick her up. No she is just being smart. I normally opt to meet people at the location on second date too. It has nothing to do with how much I like him. I just don't need him knowing all the details of where I live yet. I don't think men realize the kind of precautions women need to take and sometimes take it too personal. It is just the way we have been conditioned. 2
Author Grey40 Posted May 25, 2017 Author Posted May 25, 2017 I've had women let m pick them up on the first date so that's why I wasn't used to it.
smackie9 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 No she is just being smart. I normally opt to meet people at the location on second date too. It has nothing to do with how much I like him. I just don't need him knowing all the details of where I live yet. I don't think men realize the kind of precautions women need to take and sometimes take it too personal. It is just the way we have been conditioned. I agree....these days you may even have to do a background check. Seen enough investigation shows where women find themselves in horrible situations because they didn't know the guy was in jail for domestic assault, etc.
selinaluv Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 I've had women let m pick them up on the first date so that's why I wasn't used to it. Well they weren't very smart then. I have noticed you tend to date younger women and that is clearly a rookie move. A few more years in them and they will have wised up unfortunately because of close calls and odd encounters. I speak from experience. Now I would not get in a car and let a man drive me around on first meeting. You are making yourself way too vulnerable. 2
Author Grey40 Posted May 25, 2017 Author Posted May 25, 2017 Well they weren't very smart then. I have noticed you tend to date younger women and that is clearly a rookie move. A few more years in them and they will have wised up unfortunately because of close calls and odd encounters. I speak from experience. Now I would not get in a car and let a man drive me around on first meeting. You are making yourself way too vulnerable. This is second meeting not first. And she didn't use any like real adjectives or exclamati N points or anything who knows
preraph Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 If a man is messed up, you still will not know it by the second date. This isn't about a formality. It's about trying to hang in there long enough that if the guy is a rapist or anything, he will hopefully leave you behind for someone who makes an easier target. A friend of mine married a guy she knew for nearly 3 years and then followed him to his naval base out of state and as soon as he had her away from family and friends, he immediately started hitting her. Had never done it before because he's a coward. Knew her friends or family would get him. 1/4 of women have some type of assault during their dating years. We have to be careful. the ones who aren't are apparently going around stupidly with blinders on thinking that if a guy is nice to them, that must mean they're ok. It's not true. The worst ones are the cons who charm.
Imajerk17 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 I'm around 40 and I usually pick women up for the 2nd date. By the end of the first date though, she knows my last name. HOWEVER OP, I wouldn't sweat it that much. The big thing is that you and she are meeting up again.
BaileyB Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 I think you are overthinking this way too much... All you need to do is show up, looking and smelling good. Try to keep the conversation light, have some fun together, and think about whether you Enjoy her company enough to want to see her again. The rest is out of your control... So, don't worry about it. 1
Gaeta Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 This is second meeting not first. And she didn't use any like real adjectives or exclamati N points or anything who knows Her declining you pick her up is normal. I never let a man pick me up for a date whether it was a first one or a 4th one. I want to be 100% in control of when I leave and where I want to head after a date. I would not worry about her not using exclamation marks and smiles. Not everybody is a fan of that type of texting. No, you don't sound too enthusiastic just normal.
Gaeta Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Remember: * Do not walk in front of her * Lead her * Open doors * Let her sit first
BaileyB Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 I'm around 40 and I usually pick women up for the 2nd date. Not all women, myself included, are comfortable enough to want a man to pick them up for the second date. There is nothing wrong with meeting at your location for the first few dates. OP, the respectful thing to do is to offer and allow her to decide when she feels comfortable with you picking her up. She will likely appreciate your consideration and let you know when she's readyfor things to change...
greymatter Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 I agree with everyone else. I don't have men pick me up for a 1st or 2nd date, I meet them. I also agree that she sounds about normal and not overly enthusiastic. 1
Author Grey40 Posted May 25, 2017 Author Posted May 25, 2017 Isn't it a bad thing that she's not enthusiastic? Though sometimes the girls who seem the most enthusiastic over text are the Flakiest ones. This woman is 28 so she's my age and she just finished grad school, so she's clearly got her head on her shoulders
Gaeta Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Isn't it a bad thing that she's not enthusiastic? Though sometimes the girls who seem the most enthusiastic over text are the Flakiest ones. This woman is 28 so she's my age and she just finished grad school, so she's clearly got her head on her shoulders Good choice !! I would not worry about her level of enthusiasm. You don't know the circumstances she was in when she was texting you, she migh have been busy with something. How was your first date?
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 No. It's probably a good thing that she is cautious. It means she's mature. She wants to take her time. A bunch of exclamation points & some emoticons are not communication. Relax before you psych yourself & cause yourself to act weird. 1
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