promintox96 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 I confessed to the girl a few days ago and the day after, she avoided me and was adkward aorund me. I then text messaged her later that night and decided we should just be acquaintances but she really wanted to be friends but i felt it was a one sided effort from me . The next day i ignored her completely and she text messaged me that she wants to talk tmr. We came to the same conclusion and decided to ignore each other but she said she really wanted to be friends and get to know me better.and she said she did like me at certain points of time. But that day , i ignored her and she was depressed and very hurt. After that i couldnt stand to see her feel so much pain so i texted her a long msg and ask her what is she feeling. She said i came too fast on her and she say she treasure me and like talking to me but she wants to develop her feelings first. I told her i wont ignore her but i dk how to approach her. Any advice??
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Many times the direct route of asking someone on a date is best, but here this girl doesn't work that way. A blurted out confession of love to someone who you don't know is rarely well received as you are learning the hard way. Never do that again to anyone. This woman has said she wants to get to know you better. She's using the wrong word when she says "friends" first. What she means is you are scaring the bejeezus out of her by going from 0 to I love you in 10 seconds. She doesn't even know you. She wants to date you in the sense that she wants to spend more time with you to get to know what kind of a person you are. So stop talking in grand lofty declarations & offer to spend time with her. Take her on a date but don't call it that. Invite her for a coffee or to go for a walk. After a few of those meetings graduate to hugging hello & hand holding. Eventually in a few months you may get a kiss. Basically SLOW DOWN! 3
smackie9 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 This is what you do....be less available, don't acknowledge her all the time, talk to other girls (that is a must), be cool and aloof, give her a little attention, then pull back. you see if you do everything for them, be there for them....they will have not interest in you. You have to be a challenge, and be a little cold. Don't make her your whole world.
preraph Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Confessions of love on someone you have no relationship with are out of place. I don't know any other way to say it. They are unmerited and they send up red flags and usually just alienate the person and things become awkward. When you think you like someone, SHOW her you like her by giving her attention, not by confessions. Talk to her a little and then ask her out (the next one, not this one) and don't start talking about your feelings until you've been dating a few months. On this one, all you can do is try to be friends and see how that goes. 1
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