SiaLv82 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Feeling totally crummy tonight. I recently reconnected with a man I briefly dated a few years ago. We hung out last weekend Friday and Sat for drinks and then he called me to come over this past weekend as well. He stayed for a movie and then asked me if I wanted him to stay or go home. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said stay....since we dated previously everything was super comfortable so I really didn't give it a second thought. We made out but I made sure of nothing else. He spent the entire night holding me. Well we are back on each other's fb and he has not liked any of my posts. This sounds childish but just from dating him previously, I know how he acts when he is interested, it's almost overkill. Well, I been liking his posts, and noticed a girl in particular was liking his stuff as well. Gosh, I'm sounding a bit juvenile here, so I check to see when she was added and she is under the recently added friends list (within 3 weeks). The backdrop to this is that he had picked another girl the last time we dated. Now I feel like I am reliving history here. He hasn't tried to hang out since he came to my place. Worst part is I could just tell he wasn't 100% when he got up and left my place this past weekend..just girl's intuition. I'm licking my wounds over here I guess and a bit bummed. I only dated one other guy seriously since him. That guy also dated me for a bit and then ended up falling for another girl that he wanted more. Both situations were almost identical in the fact that they really liked dating me casually but had no interest in being serious with me after leading me on to think so. I just feel like a total smuck right now. The girl he added is the type he goes for typically --which is a specific career and education level; none of which are me and is exactly what he had left me for before. Just feeling like a smuck right now for getting my hopes up and the fact that I seem to continously fall short.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Sorry, but your first mistake was getting back together thinking it would become more. HE CHOSE someone else over you in the past b/c you are not what he wants! You are or he was hoping that you would be his interim fwb until he found someone better. You didn't give him sex that night and he was not happy with that. He likely stayed b/c he thought you'd eventually give in. Now, you are reliving the past and once again, reminded how much this guy DOESN'T want you. Move on....for good. 1
hippychick3 Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Never go back to someone who wasn't crazy about you and invested in you the first time. Guys don't let "the one" leave their life. Pull back and put yourself back out there dating. Find someone who is so into you that he will never let you go.
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