I have no idea what to do here with this girl I work with

[DolceGabbanaAddict]

I'm having some trouble with this one girl who I really like a lot, but she has a boyfriend. Yesterday she told me liked me straight out she thinks I am so cute and she likes everything about me, but she has a boyfriend. I believe she has been going out with him for about 3 years. I really like her and we work together sort of and see eachother a lot and she always says hi to me and smiles and looks at me a lot when shes around me, but I'm just not sure what to do about it. I hear she has hooked up with like another guy when she was going out with the guy she is going out now (he works at the same place we both do as well). I'm not quite sure what to say if anything at all to her, I kind of want to show affection to her, but am not sure if thats the right thing to do. I like the guy shes going out with, hes a nice guy and I'm happy for them and him, but you know I like her too. I have to mention shes about 2 years older than me.

 

Sorry if this sounds really confusing, I'm not quite sure of any other way to put it. I'm not even quite sure what to think of it in my head either. I know its a long shot, but I mean she went out of her way to let me know how she felt of me right off the bat like when we met. I don't know whether to ask her to the movies jsut as friends or to hang out some time just as friends. I don't want to hook up with her or anything, I don't do that, I'd lieka relationship if that was possible. I'm just really confused right now as you all can tell from how this is not likea complete thought at all, its pretty much a ramble and I apologize for that. I was wodnering if you guys knew what to do, if I should ask her out to the movies or to hang out or just leave her alone. I don't know if I want to leave her alone since I like her so much. I know its kind of weird that shes 2 years older too, I'm 15 and shes 17. Well thanks for reading if you did, I really appreciate it.

[ReluctantRomeo]

Don't touch her. Unless you're happy to stay "just friends", move on rapidly.

 

First, if she'll cheat on him, she'll cheat on you. Second, she's probably not even looking for anything from you - so you stand a good chance of just embarrassing yourself. Sadly, some girls get off on this kind of attention, even if they have a boyfriend.

 

Find a nice girl who's not taken and who will make you her priority.

[NYCmitch25]

Originally posted by DolceGabbanaAddict

I'm having some trouble with this one girl who I really like a lot, but she has a boyfriend. Yesterday she told me liked me straight out she thinks I am so cute and she likes everything about me, but she has a boyfriend. I believe she has been going out with him for about 3 years. I really like her and we work together sort of and see eachother a lot and she always says hi to me and smiles and looks at me a lot when shes around me, but I'm just not sure what to do about it. I hear she has hooked up with like another guy when she was going out with the guy she is going out now (he works at the same place we both do as well). I'm not quite sure what to say if anything at all to her, I kind of want to show affection to her, but am not sure if thats the right thing to do. I like the guy shes going out with, hes a nice guy and I'm happy for them and him, but you know I like her too. I have to mention shes about 2 years older than me.

 

Sorry if this sounds really confusing, I'm not quite sure of any other way to put it. I'm not even quite sure what to think of it in my head either. I know its a long shot, but I mean she went out of her way to let me know how she felt of me right off the bat like when we met. I don't know whether to ask her to the movies jsut as friends or to hang out some time just as friends. I don't want to hook up with her or anything, I don't do that, I'd lieka relationship if that was possible. I'm just really confused right now as you all can tell from how this is not likea complete thought at all, its pretty much a ramble and I apologize for that. I was wodnering if you guys knew what to do, if I should ask her out to the movies or to hang out or just leave her alone. I don't know if I want to leave her alone since I like her so much. I know its kind of weird that shes 2 years older too, I'm 15 and shes 17. Well thanks for reading if you did, I really appreciate it.

 

he he he I can remember when I was your age, I feel like I'm looking in a mirror x-years ago! I wonder if you are into her or the fact that she is "unavailable" and flirting or if you really just enjoy her company and that fell you have things in common? (only you can decide that). Anyway, all is fair in love and war so if you think she is being "for real", then normally I would say go for it but you are 2 years younger (which is like 6 in boy years), so I'm not sure what her motives are. She might just be using you to shoulder the blame for a breakup she is trying to forge with her current b/f? She also might be a "fire starter", pointlessly hurting people? Also, do you like this guy she is dating, are you guys good friends (if so you must weigh that as well)? I guess it's hard to figure out her motives from what you are telling us about her so far -- but you would be the best person to figure that out anyway.

 

Well, since you have asserted that you would like to just remain friends then the answer is quite simple --- just ask her to hang out as "buddies" and try not to treat it as a date, but then again, you are probably just kidding yourself -- you DO like her and you DO want to consider (on some level) that it will lead up to dating (of course I'm only guessing here). Most relationships at your age are fleeting anyway so in the big scheme of things, it won't as big of as an impact as it might feel like it might have. Good luck buddy..

[DolceGabbanaAddict]

Thanks guys for the advice. I appreciate it. Also I question if I really did truly like her as well or I was just jumping on so fast because she is one of those girls who attracts pretty much all guys and she was actually attracted to me or so she said. Anyways I know of another girl who I knew from school a little bit and she works with me too and today we were talking and having a good time, but again theres always a weird situation or me just doubting myself of the ability to ask out a girl on a date or something. She has an identical twin and they told me once they generally usually like the same guys and today they called me over and both told me like they liked different parts of what I was wearing (the girl I knew more liked my shorts and her sister liked my shirt for example).

 

I want to ask her out to the movies I think, but I'm not sure if I should also ask her sister to come along and make it just as like friends instead of a one on one date kind of thing. I find them both attractive as they are identical in a lot of ways and thinking it over now I should have asked them to go with me today after they were finished telling me what article of clothing they liked that I was wearing jsut as friends which I think would be cool either way. But generally I like the girl I know more, since I know her more even though they are almost the same person. Anyways again this is probably confusing as are msot of the girl situations in almost all of my life because I always fall for the girls that are hard to get or the ones that are way older than me like the other girl I was talking about. Well thanks again for your help guys, its greatly appreciated and I learned some things that I wouldn't have known otherwise if I hadn't posted the last message I posted.

[A-5]

Its almost as if I posted this about my problem!!!! We are both in the same boat, and its sinking really fast. What I just learned tonight, and EVERYONE was right about, move on, dont even try. I learned that the hard way. If you wanna talk about this, hit me up. Actually, please contact me somehow, I wanna talk to someone that has the same problem as me, and people like you are hard to find. No one else understands........

[Mr.positive]

Don't ask her out. That wouldn't be a good Idea. Just Play it cool and you'll drive her up the wall. She'll want you bad.