Chilli Posted May 24, 2017 Posted May 24, 2017 The one l was on you could private your pics so that only someone you contact can see them. l did mine that way, A lot of people don't like being exposed like that women and guys, l get it and no way l was putting my pic out there .
mortensorchid Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Putting up a fake photo is BAD no matter what the circumstances. Were you expecting good results if you did that? If so you're crazy. But people misrepresent themselves with photos as well as other information (age, occupation, educational backgrounds, etc.), as well as omitting certain information (they were married once or twice before, they have kids, etc.). It's a filtering system we go through.
Kamille Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Omg...I didn't know what I was thinking... the profile will be deleted. Why delete it? Just put a real picture of yourself. Have a laugh, forgive yourself and move on. 2
Author Springsummer Posted May 26, 2017 Author Posted May 26, 2017 Have a laugh, forgive yourself and move on. Thank you so much! I really need this! I was feeling very depressed and very low about myself. Guess what? I got a msg yesterday from that person saying stopping using the fake photo and nobody will respect me and that's a lie and rude. holy smoke! god only know how bad I feel. ain't I regret as hell ever meeting that person? and he gave 40 minutes and a hug to me at the end? wtf. that's fake as hell. the fake photo is stunning, there is no way I will think I am prettier than her. actually when I was younger, I don't think I look any less than her. I meant I have nice features and big eyes too. I don't really think she is that much prettier than me. Now it turns out maybe I am ugly and old in person, that's why he is so angry? imaging I am prettier and younger than the picture, maybe he will feel honor instead now. I thought I look fine, now, I am wondering if I am delusional. The photo is for styling, so it doesn't look real. that person is really superficial, he was so eager and set up a short time frame to meet and I didn't really have time to ask him if he recognize it was fake. He is the person whose age range is 18-40 when he is 39 himself. so I should know better what kind of person he is as well. I really regret it as hell. so thank you for bringing me some lightness to the situation.
selinaluv Posted May 26, 2017 Posted May 26, 2017 Thank you so much! I really need this! I was feeling very depressed and very low about myself. Guess what? I got a msg yesterday from that person saying stopping using the fake photo and nobody will respect me and that's a lie and rude. holy smoke! god only know how bad I feel. ain't I regret as hell ever meeting that person? and he gave 40 minutes and a hug to me at the end? wtf. that's fake as hell. the fake photo is stunning, there is no way I will think I am prettier than her. actually when I was younger, I don't think I look any less than her. I meant I have nice features and big eyes too. I don't really think she is that much prettier than me. Now it turns out maybe I am ugly and old in person, that's why he is so angry? imaging I am prettier and younger than the picture, maybe he will feel honor instead now. I thought I look fine, now, I am wondering if I am delusional. The photo is for styling, so it doesn't look real. that person is really superficial, he was so eager and set up a short time frame to meet and I didn't really have time to ask him if he recognize it was fake. He is the person whose age range is 18-40 when he is 39 himself. so I should know better what kind of person he is as well. I really regret it as hell. so thank you for bringing me some lightness to the situation. I do think what he wrote to you was out of line, but you are wrong in this case. You used a photo that was not you and that was a lie. From what you say it was even someone who is younger than you. I would be upset too if I took up my time to meet with someone and they were not who they portrayed them to be. Something as blatant and obvious as posting a photo of another person. He actually gave you 40 minutes to get to know you and was kind enough to give you a hug. Maybe he went home and thought about it more and was upset. He wasn't turned off because he thinks you are old and ugly as you say, he was turned off because you lied and deceived him. Do you honestly think that would lead to any kind of relationship? 2
ashy555 Posted May 26, 2017 Posted May 26, 2017 I don't understand why you would use a fake photo... Is an odd thing to do. When meeting up with someone, you expect to meet the person in the photo. Not someone else. That is deceiving. Of course he won't like you and probably wanted to run as soon as he met you(not because you are unattractive, but because you LIED). It is actually my biggest fear about online dating. It may get you a meeting with the person, but that is as far as it will go. It will also make them very uncomfortable and a very unpleasant date. Put up your OWN photo so that you are liked for you.
GemmaUK Posted May 26, 2017 Posted May 26, 2017 Sorry OP but I think your thinking on this is seriously out of whack. You say you're using the fake photo as 'styling' for your profile - this to me sounds like you're trying to make your profile look better with this pic instead of using pics of yourself. Then you're also comparing yourself to the woman in the photo so somewhere in there you seem to be believing on some level that you look like her. If, as you say she is young and stunning all you will achieve is to feel worse about yourself every single time you meet anyone from OLD. You're deluding yourself and much as your fake pic may get you meets it's never going to go past that simply because you're lying right from the start. People want to meet genuine people who aren't liars and a fake pic of someone who is not you will just wreck any other credibility you may have completely. It's bad enough on OLD when people use old out of date photos but fake ones really is a step too far. 2
JuneL Posted May 26, 2017 Posted May 26, 2017 OP: I'm sorry you're feeling bad. But what you have done is a deal breaker to many people, men or women. It's not just about the lie. From what you wrote in this post, it's crystal clear that you are very insecure about your looks; it seems that you can't even accept your own looks. Sorry for being blunt. Thank you so much! I really need this! I was feeling very depressed and very low about myself. Guess what? I got a msg yesterday from that person saying stopping using the fake photo and nobody will respect me and that's a lie and rude. holy smoke! god only know how bad I feel. ain't I regret as hell ever meeting that person? and he gave 40 minutes and a hug to me at the end? wtf. that's fake as hell. the fake photo is stunning, there is no way I will think I am prettier than her. actually when I was younger, I don't think I look any less than her. I meant I have nice features and big eyes too. I don't really think she is that much prettier than me. Now it turns out maybe I am ugly and old in person, that's why he is so angry? imaging I am prettier and younger than the picture, maybe he will feel honor instead now. I thought I look fine, now, I am wondering if I am delusional. The photo is for styling, so it doesn't look real. that person is really superficial, he was so eager and set up a short time frame to meet and I didn't really have time to ask him if he recognize it was fake. He is the person whose age range is 18-40 when he is 39 himself. so I should know better what kind of person he is as well. I really regret it as hell. so thank you for bringing me some lightness to the situation.
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