Sean789 Posted May 23, 2017 Posted May 23, 2017 My ex gf and i split up 2 months ago. We were together and lived together for just over 2 years. I had personal issues and i hit the drink real hard. Thats what caused us to split up. Since then i have been of the drink 11 weeks and i am getting counciling to resolve my personal issues. Even tho i am doing all this she still wont talk to me. She has 2 kids i helped raise. The youngest being 4. We had a great bond he was like my shadow. Everywere i went he was there. She has totaly shut me out wont let me see the kids wont speak to me. She has kept letters that i have written her she still has pics on facebook of me on my own even 2 months on. Her other exes she removed straight away? She told her family to remove me of facebook they did. She kept mine on and likes and comments on all there posts. Ive tried to forget them but i cant and i miss the kids ( i dont have kids of my own) any help would be appreciated im stuck
preraph Posted May 23, 2017 Posted May 23, 2017 You're only doing well for 11 weeks. It's a start, and bravo, but I wouldn't ask for a second chance until you've been sober for a year, and you should probably also be in AA for support.
Author Sean789 Posted May 23, 2017 Author Posted May 23, 2017 I done it on my own. Ive been in the pub a few times and have fought the temptation. I have no interest in the drink now it cost me too much. My dad was also a alcohlic and passed away 5 year ago at the age of 42. Thats one of the issues im going through counciling for. 1
BC1980 Posted May 23, 2017 Posted May 23, 2017 As hard as it will be, you should unfollow/unfriend/block on social media. Looking at her social media only keeps you from moving forward.
preraph Posted May 23, 2017 Posted May 23, 2017 If you were in AA, one thing you would learn is that when you're sober for the first time in a long time, and by sober, I mean not taking or smoking anything at all, you will find that while impaired for years, your development actually slowed down a lot. So one reason you have to be sober for a long time before trying again is because without the impairment, you will be changing more rapidly, be more raw emotionally, and volatile emotionally. You will find your political views changing and that sort of thing even because what you've had is sort of like arrested development, so your mindset is a less mature age, and you have to catch up, and that doesn't happen in a year. Usually the maturity issues have been a factor. And also, a lot of people who get sober find they no longer get along with the people they chose when drinking or impaired. So you need to settle into getting sober. And I wish you a lot of luck.
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