Aftermath

[Mrs. John Adams]

I just have one observation...one question.

 

She came here upset ...she asked for advice. She explained the situation and told her story.

 

If she is happy in your realtionship....if she is seeing great progress in you as an individual....why did she post what she has posted?

 

She certainy did not echo what you are saying.

 

go back and read her posts...and tell us if her posts reflect your claims.

 

This is a forum...everyone is entitled to express an opinion just like you.

 

The folks who read the posts here can heed the "advice" given or they can choose to ignore it.

 

As the op...she can also request that this thread be locked. I would not suggest she come back with a new identity...the rules state this could result in a banning and i would hate to see that happen.

 

Also her name is freewheelgirl...not wonderwheelgirl....just for future reference.

 

Best of luck to the two of you. I hope you are both very happy.

[mightycpa]

Massive changes started Months prior to either of those events, the revelations are as a result of the changes. Talk is cheap, friend. That's why we are encouraged by the actions I've been displaying.

I hate to break it to you, but she does not sound "encouraged". She sounds like she's at the end of her rope, and she doesn't like being there.

 

I would only offer that yes, maybe you have indeed made changes, and you're not getting credit for them. I would venture that the reason for that is that your changes, however many and great that they are, are simply not enough. You've been backsliding, or she's lying. It's one or the other. Either way, that's not good.

 

Perhaps you should make a list of the charges against you, and address them one by one, with her, not with us. If you're at fault, it might help her if you admit it, and explain why.

 

You have third parties with no interest, who are not afraid of chastising a poster when they could use it, and these people are en masse advising her to:

RUN FOR THE HILLS!

Like it or not, it is a recognized fact that the crowd has wisdom that individuals do not, especially after it's been discussed and picked to death. Edited May 30, 2017 by mightycpa