coolheadal Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 Hey all, I started dating this girl about 6 or 7 weeks ago and we hit it off we'll, seeing each other almost every day and texting alot etc. I had to leave for work for 3 months a few weeks ago. She knew well in advance that I was going away and her response was that she'd wait for me and we'd be together when I get back. She even came and stayed with me and my family in my hometown before I departed. She also told me she loved me, which I thought was a bit early but I went with it. About a week into the trip she started responding and messaging me less. I had this gut feeling something was up and asked if she was losing interest. She said no everything was fine, she just hadn't been feeling too well and missed me. A few more days went by and nothing has changed. I knew she'd been in contact with her ex and curiosity got the better of me. I asked if she still had feelings for her ex. She told me she'd been with her ex for 6 years and she still cares about him, but she wouldn't be with me if she was still in love with him. She told me she didn't want me to worry about us so I left it at that. At this point I knew something was wrong but didn't say anything. I later received a message saying something along the lines of 'Hey babe. I'm having a hard time ATM. Sorry I haven't been talking much I'm just struggling with life a little. Just know that my feelings for you haven't changed xx' I asked if she was okay and she said 'um I think so, I guess I'll be okay. I'll love you' I then asked if she wanted to talk about it in which she replied 'Not yet, sorry. I wouldn't even know what to say'. I didn't push any further I just told her I was a bit worried and I was there for her if she needed to talk. She responded with 'No need to worry I'll be ok with time. My life is just changing alot right now and I need to adjust. Thank you x'. That's the last I've heard from her in nearly two days. Now I get the obvious answer is probably going to be move on for now and shell reach out if she wants, but the suspense is killing me. I get people can lose interest and go cold. It was probably even because I was a little insecure asking about her ex or if she was losing interest. I just don't understand how she can be THAT cold. Texting every day to not even a simple Goodnight? The part thats getting to me the most is that she told me her feelings haven't changed and she loves and misses me. It's left me feeling like there could be a genuine reason but at the same time I could be a rebound or being strung along. it blows my mind how someone could say I love you but have zero contact. I'm also left wondering if it could be normal again if she does come back around.. Any advice appreciated. She still cares for her ex that's why, and now that your out of the picture for 3 months she can do whatever she pleases. You two are not engaged, not married she loney, needy, clingy and who's around for her the ex can come right back into her life. Even if he has that's why text has stop. You knew if you leave she would be like this. No way in the world you could have not for seen this. She's trying to choose between the Ex and you but your gone and he's there. So she made her choice, plus why settle for a liar... Can't trust her and your worried about her. You know the answers, you know these situations. We here can only advise you you have to make up your own mind. Unless you can leave for a family reason to go and check on her but don't tell her you would be in for a shock of your life if you catch in bed with someone else. But you don't really know this woman that long. Shame you have to go off for 3 months to work right doing this time. This type of woman needs a man around her more she's going to wonder and she sure did!
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