Was I quick to judge that I was a rebound guy

[TomCH]

Ok now here is the situation

I was dating a girl for about a month and half now. We work together at the company but at different departments and we little to no contact in past.

One day in preparation for an event, I initiated casual contact, and we started talking. Then, we exchanged numbers cause we had to do stuff for the event.

 

Then we started texting and talk about random stuff. She told me that she had just been dumped by her ex recently.

Our contact was mainly casual but one thing led to another and we started to get close. Everything points that was into me. But, my mind though screams "rebound" and I was hesitate to get into anything.

Until one day, she confessed to me that she had always liked me wanted to get to know with me and I was her type of guy (while her ex wasn't, who also treated her badly).

She even listed all of our previous encounters (they were only a few). She even remembered details like what i had said or what I was wearing at the time of those encounters.

So we started dating and it was great initially. She told she liked everything about me, but she would't stop bringing her ex in every conversation. (All negative with some neutral comments).

I told her once that there was no need to bring up the ex, but kept doing it, anyways, which annoyed me.

 

Only 1 month into the relationship she had already distanced herself from me many times and ignored my calls (i only call one time hoping she would reply if she sees the missed call). She does after hours, and always has an excuse to not calling back.

I told her it upsets me to ignore my calls, she promised me she would never do again. Later on, she even started to tweet about her ex and how she thought how badly the breakup was, with some clear msgs that she missed him. Also, her tweets were mostly depressed ones.

 

I decided to end the relationship right away. So, she did it one more time and ignored me, that was her last. I dumped her right away and blocked her in every social app. Hours later, she send me an email asking why.

I did not reply.

 

I realized this relationship was going no where and I was just a rebound guy.

She is a very hot and nice girl and thought we could be great together.

 

Now, was I quick to judge that I was a rebound. Then, why did she say that she had always liked me remembered all of our contacts at the office. You don't remember stuff that happened long ago with random person, do you?

 

Your thoughts?

Edited May 22, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[frigginlost]

Sounds like you saved yourself a lot of future heartache...

 

What she says regarding liking you etc really does not mean anything. It's all about actions and she showed you through those that she was not committed to any type of serious long term relationship.

 

Don't beat yourself up.

[preraph]

I think you were probably right. Now, maybe a year down the road, she might be ready to date. It's nice she was upfront with you about liking you in a nice casual way.

Sorry it didn't work out. Maybe don't burn bridges in case she ever moves on emotionally from that guy.