Very curious about other perspectives..

[jbotsss]

For about three weeks, me and this guy at my job started texting back and forth every day. I usually get a good morning/goodnight text every day and he'll randomly message me throughout the day. After a while, I started considering him a crush.

 

He's a friendly guy and I know he has a reputation for texting back fast, so he may not be giving me special treatment. Sometimes I'll initiate the convo, sometimes he will. We talk every day. And through our texts, I would have never gotten the feeling that he didn't like me. However, sometimes he'll tell me he'll see me at work, but he never walks into my department to tell me hi and sometimes I get the feeling he's trying to avoid me.

 

He's well aware that I'm somewhat of a "heartbreaker," because I rejected two of his friends. I found out that one of them confronted my crush about texting me, and that he has "no hard feelings" if my crush chooses to want to take me out for a date. And my crush apparently told him he's not "feeling" me and that we're just friendly. I'm not sure if he doesn't want to put a dampener on the friendship between him and his friend because they're close, or if he doesn't want to make a move because he knows I might reject him, or if he's really not interested in me after all. My crush also lied to him, telling him that I've been inviting him out several places, when I've only invited him to the mall.. once. And that that's why he "always invites [his other friend] to tag along."

 

After hearing all that from another coworker, I decided I was going to stop trying to chase after him, and that I would just keep it cordial between us. Keep in mind we're still talking through text every day after that. Then around three days ago, he sends me a message asking me if I would like to go to the movies with him when I'm available. And he didn't mention anything about bringing his friend. What's his angle? Is he really not interested in me? Is he trying to start something? Is he playing with my emotions? I'm just wondering what he might be thinking.

[todreaminblue]

just go to the movies with him and see how things progress....deb

[act00]

He asked you out on a date. Go out with him.

 

Keep in mind, dating coworkers can be sketchy, and you've already had a bit of "gossip" between he and his friends, so part of me is thinking it's better just to state you'd rather not date coworkers, but if you think this could work and there wouldn't be any drama at work if you break up or things don't work out, then just say yes. What's the worst that can happen? You see a movie with a friend?

[smackie9]

Dating a coworker is the worst idea ever. I did it once thinking "how bad can it be?" (not listening to my own advice), it went sideways, things go weird at work, other coworkers got involved...ugggh! Not worth it.

 

Please think this through carefully...you already have more than one player in this. The only reason I advice against it is because he has buddies involved and they all work with you...if you worked in a different dept, and didn't see much of each other then it's not so bad.

Edited May 22, 2017 by smackie9

[kendahke]

I agree with Smackie.

 

Don't poop where you eat.

 

It could very well be he's asking you out in order to mine information to take back to his friends. The others who you rejected are still his friends and this has the potential of not going well for you.