Author DoubleJeopardy Posted May 25, 2017 Author Posted May 25, 2017 If, as you say, you have had 20+ years of relationship experience, then the fact that this routinely occurs should be no surprise to you.You can vent, that's fine, and I think that people should be fairly straightforward about their intentions, whether the relationship is going north or south. If you've been even the slightest bit intimate, like "more than friends", then it's both common courtesy and a practical interest to let somebody know when the temperature is changing, as in So really, I see you have a valid complaint about her communication but not really about the state of her feelings. They are what they are. The only thing you can really do is subject yourself to them, or not. Those are your choices. If the risk/difficulty is compounded by an inability/unwillingness to be forthcoming, then the smart answer is NOT. That's it. I do not understand your rebuttal to the quotes. One of them isn't mine.
Maggie4 Posted May 26, 2017 Posted May 26, 2017 I try not to judge people for their negatives and only their positives. I think you SHOULD judge when choosing a partner. No, you don't judge her as a human being, but you judge her as a potential partner. True love needs that kind of honesty. Judge wisely, and you won't waste people's times, including your own. I look back at past failed relationships, there were always negatives in that person that I "overlooked". At the end, I didn't do the other person any favors.
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