ExposedBrick Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 I had the most bizarre dating situation unfold. I met a girl via a dating app for a date. I knew we lived in the same neighborhood from the app, but it turns out we actually live in the same building. Somehow we never met otherwise in over 3 years of living in the same building. We have been on three dates. We seem really compatible but I'm not really sure there is very much, if any, chemistry. Honestly, the first date was going pretty poorly until we discovered we were neighbors, then things loosened up a bit. I don't think she is an unattractive person, but I'm not really that physically attracted to her. We made out a little at the end of each date and I wasn't repulsed but wasn't exactly clamoring for more. Also, the conversation doesn't flow particularly smoothly, and feels a bit awkward. I would say the conversation is characterized by a lack of laughter and just feels flat. I'm struggling on what to do here. The dates have been fun, but I'm just not really feeling the chemistry/sexual attraction. However, since I think we are compatible, it's tempting to continue seeing her to see if anything develops. On the other hand, given we could easily bump into each other regularly, I want to remain tactful. I will definitely say the three dates have made me want to keep exploring other options which I think is a telling sign that I should put a stop to things. To make matters worse, I've been dating another girl where we have great chemistry but I'm not sure about compatibility. Given the unusual circumstances, what should I do?
smackie9 Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 Not date anyone who doesn't do it for you....that's what you do. Ditch the girl from your building, you are wasting her time with you lack of interest. As for the other one, keep it casual, get some sex out of it and keep your options open.
preraph Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 I think you should tell the girl from your building that you don't feel you're right for each other romantically but that you would like to remain friendly acquaintances and maybe introduce each other to other people. 4
BaileyB Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 I think you should tell the girl from your building that you don't feel you're right for each other romantically but that you would like to remain friendly acquaintances and maybe introduce each other to other people. Good advice. I, for one, would never want to date a man who when describing our date used the phrase - "not repulsive." If you are not feeling it, you are not feeling it. There has to be more of a connection between you than the fact that you live in the same building... 2
joseb Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 OP, why are you trying to force something that so obviously isn't right. "Not repulsive"? If you knew this girl described you like this, would you want her to keep going on dates with you? Be fair to her. 3
SoThatHappened Posted May 22, 2017 Posted May 22, 2017 I'm not really sure there is very much, if any, chemistry. ... Also, the conversation doesn't flow particularly smoothly, and feels a bit awkward. I would say the conversation is characterized by a lack of laughter and just feels flat. ... I'm just not really feeling the chemistry/sexual attraction. Um, "Tricky predicament for the ages?" Really? This isn't even tricky. Talk about false advertising. What's quoted above is as black-and-white as it gets, man. Sheesh.
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