donteatmysocks Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 Okay, so I met this guy on Tinder - we got along really well and after exchanging numbers and texting for a few days, we had our first date (he initiated). It went amazingly well, he complimented me, gently touched my hand while talking, etc. At the end of the date, he asked if I wanted to see him again, to which I agreed. 15 minutes after I got home he texted me that he really enjoyed the evening and that I was really pretty, etc. We set up a second date almost immediately. So a few days passed, we texted every now and then, and we ended up having dinner. I was early, so I waited for him, and as he arrives, he complimented me again. He's a real gentleman. Second date went well, we laughed, talked, had lots of things to chat about. He offered to walk me home, which he did, and then left. No kiss, only kisses on the cheeks as always (few days prior to the date he told me, no worries, he only walks me home, nothing more. So I wasn't surprised). This time, he didn't text me after our date. So I did, the next morning. He replied almost immediately, but we didn't text for long. I then waited for three-four days, yesterday I sent him a message saying if he was still interested and if he's up for another date (suggested cooking a meal he wasn't familiar with; we talked about that on our second date). However, he hasn't replied yet - it's been 30 hours. Weirdly enough, he hasn't been online on WhatsApp either, so I don't know what to think of it. How long should I wait to text him again? He usually replies really quickly, even the day after our second date.. I'm kind of confused.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 Don't text him again. Wait to see if he replies to you. If he is on Tinder, he's likely chatting with a few different girls so perhaps he's been distracted with someone else. Comes with the territory of such dating aps. Maybe he's also been busy with something unrelated. In any event, I'd let him come to you now. You made a suggestion for a third date, so the ball is in his court now. In the meantime, any other interesting prospects for you?
kel224 Posted May 22, 2017 Posted May 22, 2017 I second what ExPat advised-give it some more time. I know how crazy waiting makes you feel in this situation, I've def been there/still kinda am. I'm of the opinion that it's fine to send another text after a couple of days, he might still be interested but pre-occupied with something or someone else. My rule is two texts unanswered. A 3rd text with no response, and I start to feel ridiculous and like I'm digging a deeper hole. I know it's not for everyone but I think it's also helpful to be active talking to and even seeing others. Helps keep you from focusing too much on one person and going crazy when stuff like this happens. For me, it also makes me more comfortable with dating since it's like practicing a skill.
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