SmallWonder Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 You have heard my story: I'm dating this guy and we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. He and I had this electric instant connection. It's like we're on fire for each other.... We talk on the phone occassionally and see each other about once or twice a week. He has a wild streak and is happy with his bachelor ways, I think - BUT Sunday I was at his house and I am wondering: What does a guy mean when he stands there staring at you, kind of throws his arms up and practically shouts "I CAN'T fall in love with you!" Does that mean he's telling me he won't or that he kind of already is but is in denial....?????
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 He is infatuated.. Love takes longer than 30 days to form. He may have the beginning feelings that he thinks you are right for him therefore he will allow himself to fall for you. Ask him ......
my_manda Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 either that, or he means what he says " I cannot see myself falling in love with you....". Either way, I hope it works out for you, but please remember, you mentioned he has a wide bachelor side....if the timing is wrong than he may as well be the wrong guy. I don't mean this offensively....here is an example though. A good friend of mine dated a guy for about two years, he broke up with her saying that he was not ready for marriage yet and felt he was wasting her time. She was crushed. However, we ran into this guy about thirteen months later, with his fiance he had been dating for about five months. He called my friend and told her this.....it was never about you being wrong it was the timing. He said that seven months or so after they parted ways, he decided he was ready for the commitment level and the girl he was currently dating was too. They got engaged (they had known each other for years so though they did not date long, they knew each other well). Same concept. Women fall in love and decide they want to get married, have a serious relationship, etc. Men decide they are ready for marriage, deep relationship, etc. and then find the relationship. If he has not made the decision that a deeper level of love is what he wants, than he will not seek it with you or anyone else.
Author SmallWonder Posted August 2, 2005 Author Posted August 2, 2005 Well, I do have to say this: We grew up next door to each other, and recently had bumped into each other. I was in a long relationship that just ended (I am not looking to be married - I have already been). and he has had several failed relationships with the wrong people (his words, not mine). I am just wondering if he proclaimed this to convince himself that he isn't falling in love? We have talked about this over and over: we're taking it slow and are good friends - with an amazing - amazing - amazing attraction to each other. There always has been. So I was wondering: why shout at me that you can't fall in love with me?
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Originally posted by SmallWonder So I was wondering: why shout at me that you can't fall in love with me? Maturity.. He doesn't know how to act
my_manda Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Fly on the Wall. I love your phrase "It is the woman who chooses the man who will choose her"...words to live by!
J dub Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Originally posted by my_manda Fly on the Wall. I love your phrase "It is the woman who chooses the man who will choose her"...words to live by! I love that, its so true
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