lostinmymind Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Yeah so me and my ex have been broken up for about 3 months, she would say 5, but she wants to make it sound longer of course. We are going to be living across the hall from each other in about a month now so I want to try to at least be friendly with her. She was having a fire at her house and pretty much all of my friends were going (we have a lot of the same friends), she invited me to go as well. I thought maybe this would be a good setting to just be around her in a friendly sort of way, but there would be lots of other people and I wouldn't have to focus on her the whole night. Well, I was there for a short amount of time when I hear her on the phone inviting her new "boy toy" (as she calls him). I took the soonest opportunity to leave with someone else that I could. I ended up leaving before he got there, thank goodness. She said to me, "You don't have to leave, you just got here." Yeah right I didn't have to leave! Who wouldn't in that situation? I simply said that I needed to get home because i had to wake up early to leave town. When she started complaining to one of my friends that I left so soon they tried explaining to her that I wasn't mad or freaking out, but that I just can't handle being around her new guy. She replied with "oh well, I'm not going to go tiptoeing around him anymore." The next morning she calls me all huffy puffy finding out why I hadn't left town yet and why I slept in. I didn't answer, but she has been being really nice and making contact lately in a friendly way so I thought she might apologize so I returned her call. I'm sure she wanted to hear that I was depressed and blah blah I didn't feel like going, but it was weather related (I was going to a waterpark) and I let her know that and ended the conversation. She is starting to point out everything I do wrong and trying to tie everything I do to her somehow lately. I refuse to get upset or give in to her, even though I obviously am. This all started after a 4 day period of her calling and being nice and even a little flirty with me. I also caught wind she wants to break up with her "boy toy" on grounds he is psycho and annoying and mentioning marriage after 3 months of dating at 19 years old, but that doesn't seem to have happened. I'm sure she is waiting till the end of summer when he moves away (mean move if you ask me). She seems to really be craving my attention lately, and I'm not giving it to her. Hopefully she snaps to her senses and gets out of this "I'm the SH@T" phase she is in. I don't like seeing her like this, and I'm afraid I can't be with her OR even be her friend if she is turning into this kind of person. It's really sad too, cause she used to be so sweet and caring. That's the girl I'm still in love with, I don't know what she is now... I dunno how anyone will reply to all this, I just had to get it out.
sunflower1008 Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 Originally posted by lostinmymind She is starting to point out everything I do wrong and trying to tie everything I do to her somehow lately. From what you say in your post, I don't think you want to be tied to this kind of girl. Even though she started out as "sweet and caring", obviously her true colors are coming out. Is this what you want? Is this what will make you happy? And being a friend to her is tricky business, especially if feelings are involved. If you can seperate your feelings from her and just be her friend, more power to you, but that's hard to do. The other thing is to take a break from each other and see how you feel about her in a month or two. Time really does tell things.
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