AnieAviv Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 So a regular customer at work finally asked for my number after months of subliminally flirting with me. All of my coworkers believe that he really likes me because he always ask about me when I'm not at work. Knowing this only made me more awkward and sometimes standoffish around him, even though I really like him, because I'm extremely shy. So I'm curious, how long does a guy usually wait to contact a girl if he likes her, but is unsure if she likes him? There's also something else. I'm 26 and he's 38. I'm kind of worried about the age difference. If a guy goes after a girl more than 10 years younger than him, does it usually means it's just for sex?
d0nnivain Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 This is going to be hard to predict. If he was listening to CW, everybody told him not to pursue you because you were just giving him good customer service. Moreover, your skittishness in the face of learning he liked you probably made him think you don't like him & he's now scared to call you. He may have even talked himself out of it. If you are unwilling to call him (& I would be in your shoes), next time he comes into your work, you have to make the 1st move. Go over to him & enthusiastically say hi. Make sure you give him permission to call. I'd gently say something like I gave you my number on ____ but you haven't called. Seriously, I don't give out my number to just anybody. I'm beginning to think you lost interest. Not every older man only wants sex. I'm sure he expects sex will be a part of an established relationship but absent other factors I can't say he's only interested in one thing. Until you ditch the attitude that all men are only out to use you for sex, you will have a difficult time connecting with another person. 1
smackie9 Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 You don't expect anything.....that's all you have to do. You will drive yourself crazy if you keep over analyzing everything. You give out your number, don't be checking your phone. If you go out on a date, ask a lot of questions, watch his body language. If he starts in on asking questions of a sexual nature, THAT'S when you know what he is pushing for....he's feeling you out to see what kind of girl you are. I agree with d0nnivain, not all men are only after one thing, but they do expect it sooner or later. Lets face it, we all want sex lol. BUT you can set the pace, and take your time observing. To me a man that wants to take you out and spend time getting to know you is positive....a guy that pushes to "Netfix/chill" only after a few dates is more likely to be looking for one thing. You can base his interest on the level of effort he puts into the dates.
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