Grey40 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 I've been out with this girl 4 times---twice where it was just us two alone. She's only 21 I'm 28. Both time we hung out for like 8 hours. Went to bar/restaurant played darts and/or pool, had a really good time she was laughing, touching me and seemed into it. I brought her back to my house twice and couldn't make anything happen sexually. She probably thinks I'm a loser with no skills but she just didn't seem to make it easy. I tried to go in for a kiss and she slightly avoided it or tried to change the subject and talk about something else. She never mentioned taking it slow. I saw her now 5 days ago, she has not texted me or contacted me at all since then, nor has she ever. I've always reached out to her first every time. Each time I plan a date she responds positively and always agrees to go and she even holds my hand when we are out, says she has a good time and she definitley doesn't see me as a friend because we hang out one on one and do activities that friends don't do one on one. I think she likes me but seems fishy like maybe she has someone else and doesn't want to cheat on them but keeping me on the back burner? She did call a guy on the phone one night when we were together It's my birthday this weekend she said she'd contact me to hangout and she hasn't yet. I know if I reach out she'll probably respond but I feel like by not contacting her I'll truly see if she even cares. Thoughts?
preraph Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Sounds like she's in no hurry to have sex with you. She certainly probably is dating other guys. i mean, you're not in any kind of exclusive relationship. So why wouldn't she be dating around? As long as she goes out when you ask her and is somewhat touchy, holding hands, then she's just not letting sex happen fast. I do think it's a little alarming she dodged your kiss, but this is her choice. If she's gone out with you since then and held hands, then you're still dating and not in the friend zone. If she hasn't gone out with you and held hands since dodging the kiss, you very well may be. 1
Author Grey40 Posted May 20, 2017 Author Posted May 20, 2017 Sounds like she's in no hurry to have sex with you. She certainly probably is dating other guys. i mean, you're not in any kind of exclusive relationship. So why wouldn't she be dating around? As long as she goes out when you ask her and is somewhat touchy, holding hands, then she's just not letting sex happen fast. I do think it's a little alarming she dodged your kiss, but this is her choice. If she's gone out with you since then and held hands, then you're still dating and not in the friend zone. If she hasn't gone out with you and held hands since dodging the kiss, you very well may be. So what's the course of action then? I don't beleive I'm in the friend zone with her. Should I reach out again this weekend or wait to see if she even tries? 1
OnlyHonesty Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 So what's the course of action then? I don't beleive I'm in the friend zone with her. Should I reach out again this weekend or wait to see if she even tries? I tried to go in for a kiss and she slightly avoided it or tried to change the subject... I saw her now 5 days ago, she has not texted me or contacted me at all since then, nor has she ever. I've always reached out to her first every time. You are wasting your time. She's not that interested in you, but if she's got nothing better to do, and you call, she might kill some time with you. She's fickle, has other guys on the go, and is not to be taken seriously at all. If you don't contact her, she will contact you to initiate something, but not because she wants to be with you. She will simply do that just because you didn't. My advice to you would be to stop wasting your time. 1
act00 Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 After four dates, you'd have a clue where her head is at and if this was going to go somewhere, and I would think you would have at least gotten a kiss, but after four dates, not just a kiss, but a good makeout session. Seriously, four dates later and not a single kiss? I think it's time to cut your losses.
preraph Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 So what's the course of action then? I don't beleive I'm in the friend zone with her. Should I reach out again this weekend or wait to see if she even tries? I'd ask her out at least two days in advance of the date. That's just common courtesy and it also helps assure she's not maybe got something else planned. So ask her out, assume she's just not one to jump in all the way too soon, and just see how it goes for a few more dates. If she has an excuse, says she's busy, then ask her when is a good day for her and see if she picks one or makes another excuse. If she picks one, then she was telling the truth. If not, then she is avoiding accepting a date. I feel she's somewhat interested or she would not be holding hands. So good luck. 1
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