Loveair Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Had a date with a guy. It was good and we decided to meet again and I was looking forward to it. The day of the date I wasn't sure at first if I was going. Because of my mother who was feeling extra bad the day before of her neuropathic illness, I didn't know if I could cope. I'm always trying to continue to live my life after all and be positive, so I tried to cheer up and went to meet him! I never dated when my mother was sick. Omg, I was so weird, I didn't recognize myself. Couldn't concentrate, couldn't feel anything. After the date, a month ago, we have barely been texting anything and I know he doesn't like me. I'm not sure if I like him. First I was just trying to move on and said to myself that I'm not ready to date in my situation, it's better just being quiet, it's hard to talk about. Now I have regrets. Thinking about telling him what's going on, that he deserves it. I could tell him in a friendly way just as a fact, not a reason to ask for another date. If I would like him, I'm just afraid to scare him away if he knows my life isn't stable, even though it's better than when I met him. Should I tell him? In general, how do people react in these cases?
oasis Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 If he doesn't like you (your words)....then why bother explaining anything to him? Forget about him and date other people.
act00 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 What is your goal? Do you want to pursue a relationship or not? You state he doesn't like you. How do you know? Did he tell you? You're not sure about him. You state specifically you're not sure if you like him. I don't know if you're in a place to date with your mom's illness and I'm assuming you work and/or have school as well. I'm not sure what you're trying to do. I don't see the point in reaching out to him at this point if you're not that interested in this man and you have a lot of obligations on your plate. I have a feeling you're reaching out for some companionship where someone takes care of you, since you're doing a lot of caring for others. Please be careful trying to form romantic relationships during a time that your life is very vulnerable. You are not only setting yourself up to be hurt, and putting yourself in a precarious position, but you're going to hurt the men you lackadaisically commit to. Let sleeping dogs lie. If this man is meant to be, he'll plop back in your life when the time is right. You're clutching onto a fantasy right now with this guy and with your mom's illness and life stressors. He's not "prince charming." He would be actively talking to you and dating you if he was.
Author Loveair Posted May 20, 2017 Author Posted May 20, 2017 If he doesn't like you (your words)....then why bother explaining anything to him? Forget about him and date other people. Yes, I felt that I ruined the last impression because of the circumstances. If he knows the truth, maybe he will change his mind and give me another chance..
preraph Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Look, I don't want to throw a damp blanket on you, but the last thing a guy wants to hear on a first or second date is the woes of the date. If you can't go on a date and act normal and refrain from talking about your problems on him when he doesn't even know you, just don't date yet. Men want to have fun. On a first date, they want to see a woman who will be fun to be around. They don't want to get hit with her responsibilities when they can more easily just take out a different woman who is lighter hearted. Sorry you're having problems. I've been through it. I didn't have much left for anyone else, and no one else can fix it or make it better for you, so just take care of your personal business and pick back up again once you're done with the sadness. 2
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