Mistik Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Hey guys, so I met this girl around august and we became best friend no sex no intention for a relationship and around january she broke up with her ex of 5 years, after a month we hooked up and it was not planned and I said to her that I do not want any relationship with her but we can still have sex if it makes her feel good and secure, after 2 weeks of constant sex she opened up and said she has feelings for me, she started crying and all, I got mad and she ran out of the car crying, i ran after her and hugged her while she is still tearing up, and she has a thing that she calls her self a queen, so i said "you are dumb", and she mumbled "what?..." I said would you let me be your king? she said yes and since then we were together, until she went on a vacation i couldn't go on, it was with her boy friends and her cousin, on this vacation her ex was present as well and they slept in one room, she her ex and her cousin, on 2 different beds, she was sleeping alone and her ex with her cousin, one night they thought my gf fell asleep and had sex but she was awake and up, she called me that same night after they were done and gone, crying and sobbing to me so i would come and take her (its a 4 hour drive) I said of course im coming, so I started driving and still talking with her on the phone calming her down, i said if im passing a city i was near i would not turn back and come pick her up no matter what she says, she told me to stop and let her think, she said i should get back home, that i am with here to help her get over this and so i did i returned home while still talking with her on the phone for 4 more hours, after she got back from her vacation, i took her to a restaurant and some shopping to let her mind forget about the whole deal, when we got home and after we had sex, she said she needs to talk with me, i started moving my cogs in the head, i asked her "is it because of what happened there? you still have feelings for him and you want to get back to him? so you are breaking up with me?" her answer was like a yes no kind of thing, she told me that it is not fair for me to be with her while she still loves her ex, and that i don't deserve it, i can respect and agree with her but i got mad and attacked her with some mean words, after everything calmed down she teared up and looked at me and said "i did not want to hurt you but you did the opposite" i said that i was sorry and it is an emotional cloud and unstable, the day after she broke up with me, i cried like a baby. this all happened at 12/4/17. the following week she went to him several times and they had sex, i got upset about it again and called her not directly a whore, she did not talk to me for a few days. Later on, she told me I took the break up too hard,and yes i did because i felt like someone was with me on this relationship and added pieces to the puzzle with me, it felt real, and i gave her everything. she had a fight with her mother and her mother kicked her out, and she called me that happened on 3rd of may, i let her sleep at my place, so we started having sex almost daily, but every chance she had she ran to her ex to have sex with him, while still sleeping at my place in my bed, i knew all that but my love have blinded me as much as her. one day we went to a barber shop and she called up her ex to check on him and he was talking to someone because she was on hold, she started checking with his friends where is he, and no one answered, so she checked his apple account and he was talking with her cousin, she got really mad and wanted to got and confront him (he lived 5 minute walk from the barber shop) so i let her go and she asked me to call when i am finished to pick her up, after i was done i called her and she was sobbing and told me to come and pick her up, when i arrived she was sitting on the side walk with bunch of plastic bags that was filled with memories, makeup, stuff they did together and such, we went back to her place to leave it there but she asked to stay home for the night, i let her although i really didn't want to, because i knew she would drink or cut her self, but after some talking i let her stay home, when i got back to my place she wrote me that she was hungry so i asked her if she wants me to bring some food over, she said "no need I will go to sleep soon", but what really happened her ex called her and they talked i assume for an hour or so, this broke her but she was still set on getting back with him. we are talking on the phone and sms, and i see her everyday and we meet up almost everyday, so this breakup is a real bitch, i have no where to run from this to heal. yesterday 19th of may, they got back together and she told me right away, so i packed her stuff, shoes makeup clothes books and all, returned this all today, she said thank you for everything it was fun as long as it lasted, now i still have feelings for her although i am a sucker in this story and i still want her back, what are the chances she will come back to me, and what is the best strategy to take about check her seriousness about getting back with me i really love her, im 22 and i had lots of girls, one night stands and short relationships, but damn i love this girl so much, i want her back. she is 19 and her ex is 18, for the record i own my own car, and my own place. what do you guys think will happen, will she come back or not?
d0nnivain Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Why would you want her back? She cheated on you with a guy who had sex with another woman while she was in the room. YUCK! This girl makes very poor decisions. She ran into your arms as a full on rebound from her EX with whom she reunited All she cared about was filling the hole his departure left & you were happy to play the role of white knight. This girl used you & if you keep letting her she will continue to shred your heart. Kick her out of your life. With friends like her, you don't need enemies. 2
Author Mistik Posted May 20, 2017 Author Posted May 20, 2017 If she comes back i will test her willingness to be with me and i won't rush into it again stupidly, I had lots of girls in my life, and it is not the first time I am a rebound but this wasn't planned by me, and i fell deeply in love with her, she may have done some poor choices but that is the place we learn the best, she will see her mistake sooner or later, every other girl i would have kicked away from my life, but she is different, she is very special girl with traits that are very rare to find these days, I will not wait for her in the mean time, but do you think she will come back to me?
ExpatInItaly Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Forget this girl, OP. You were her rebound and it wasn't going to last. She's still into her ex. 1
preraph Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 She's just using you to survive, I think. Her ex is having sex with her cousin right in front of her? This is some hillbilly BS. She hasn't got a lick of sense, and you seem like a nice guy who communicates well and can do much better! Do not waste your life waiting for this chaotic woman. She likes this chaos or she wouldn't keep going back for more. Very likely, she grew up with chaos and that is what is normal to her. On top of that, you casually mention she cuts herself, so she needs to see a psychologist and straighten herself out before she's fit to be anyone's mate.
Altair0770 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Yeah, sorry OP. There is no chance she's coming back to you. All you did was delay her healing. Eventually the feelings for her ex of 6 years were going to come back. Take it as a lesson - never get into a relationship with someone that just got out of a LTR. You set yourself up to be a rebound there. I'd agree with the others. I know it's hard, but do your best to forget this girl.
d0nnivain Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 but do you think she will come back to me? I think her present situation with her EX won't last long or be fulfilling. She knows you like her & she knows how to manipulate that to her advantage. If you continue to be willing to be her easy mark, sure she might use you a second time because it's easy & you let her.
Maldives Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 Dude r u nuts...going back to this douchebag user. Gee dude have some self respect for ureself
Marc878 Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 She is what she is. She's told you and shown you who she is but you refuse to believed it. You have a problem that you need to fix.
somanymistakes Posted May 21, 2017 Posted May 21, 2017 Let me see if I can understand the sequence of events. She tried to be honest with you that she had feelings for someone else, and you got angry with her. Well, that happens, you were understandably upset. Then she broke up with you. Then AFTER breaking up with you, she slept with someone else... so you called her a whore? Then AFTER that, she was confused and tangled up and sleeping with both of you, because this girl has no idea how to end a relationship. Is it possible she'll try to come back to you? Definitely. She clearly has trouble actually ending anything. Is it a good idea for you to get back together with her? No! Look, if this girl shows up on your doorstop next week saying things didn't work out with the ex and you take her back, how long do you think it'll last this time?
Author Mistik Posted May 23, 2017 Author Posted May 23, 2017 I think when the time will come and she will come back, she will be different, I won't let my self to be an easy target, I have taken back control of my self, mostly, I started hitting the gym again, I started hanging out with my friends, all I want is to make her fight for me not the other way around, I do still love her but not to the point I cannot deiced what is good for me aswell, she will not get me back that easily I promise you that, and I will put her in a hanging position, to see if she will run back to her ex not-so-ex, and if after some time she will stay I will give it another shot but this time with less emotion and more dominance and a bit more neediness from her end of the relationship.
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