Astonv2 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 I met this lovely girl online. We had good chemistry over texting and I was really excited to meet her. Ive been kinda jaded with dating lately so this was a change. we had so much in common. Anyways this didn't fail to disappoint. We vibed really well ,multiple venues for drinks,bowling grabbed food and kissed a few times throughout the night. She let me know she got home safe thanked me and we exchanged good night pics. I followed up the next morning with a snap which hasn't been opened as of yet. so waited the next day to text her. Both theese have not been read Even though she has been on whatsapp. I'm trying not to blow up her phone but totally confused by this. Clinging to the small chance she has some issues that have come up. Do I Give it till tommorow then maybe try ring her up ? 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 (edited) 1. Don't blow up her phone, leave it 2. There is nothing that has come up that prevents her from opening your messages 3. It is likely that she is talking to and dating other guys If she is attractive, she will have other interests and/or interested potential suitors. Don't communicate further and simply wait, but plan NOW to move on. If I were you, I would, w/o hesitation, block/delete her and move on NOW. Her lack or response is saying volumes. She is looking for better and/or just not interested. I'm not quite certain why people thing just because a date went well or amazingling well that that automatically means genuine interest to pursue a relationship. It is a start, but it just means you both had a good time, but you never know for certain what the other person is thinking during and after. Often times, they have already made up their mind that you are not EXACTLY what they hoped for or looking for. Edited May 20, 2017 by simpleNfit 1
Tressugar Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Did she tell you it was a great date or is this one- sided? 1
d0nnivain Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Since this was from OLD & you have reached out twice -- one as yet unopened snap & one text message -- but you know she has your contact info because she told you she got home safely & you can tell she's been on whatsapp, acknowledge the fact that you have been ghosted & move on. As great as the date was from your perspective, it wasn't all that to her. Sorry. 2
elaine567 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Thing is we can all experience "great times" with all sorts of different people. Friends, relatives, work colleagues, acquaintances, even complete strangers on occasion. We can develop some connection, even a deeper connection, but that doesn't necessarily mean we would want to date them. 2
Author Astonv2 Posted May 20, 2017 Author Posted May 20, 2017 Did she tell you it was a great date or is this one- sided? Yes she thanked me for a lovely evening with a x then we flirted a bit and said good night x FYI I'm not totally clueless I know if its not mutual, think it would be a Bit odd the message hasn't been read and snap score has not updated.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Yes she thanked me for a lovely evening with a x then we flirted a bit and said good night x FYI I'm not totally clueless I know if its not mutual, think it would be a Bit odd the message hasn't been read and snap score has not updated. Don't fret. It's part of the whole dating experience. Just don't make too big of a deal when and if you have a good time. It doesn't mean too much. Just be happy that you show her a good time and the rest is up to her.
SevenCity Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 I had dates with two girls that seemed to go very well (passionate kissing and I had a great time text from them before I got home) and never went out with them again. You don't know the back story. There could be 10 other guys or one she really likes and it just got serious. Never put your eggs in one basket until SHE asks to be exclusive and you want to as well. It has to be her idea or you are forcing her. Right now you are being a stalker. You have sent two communications and contemplating a third. Meanwhile, she's probably waiting for the guy who hasn't reached out yet / is playing it cool. I would not block her as simple said, but don't ever reach out again unless she does first. Women need space to think about and miss you. As much as you hear them complain they respond to it. Not being a jerk, but having a life outside of her. When you followed up the next day you should have setup your next date.
act00 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Keep in mind the multiple times the advice has been to not text or call right away so that you don't seem too desperate or eager, or you have to wait for the guy to text first, etc. Personally, I would do what she did and text a "home, thank you, had a great time" text when I got home and would be thrilled to see your texts, snaps, first thing in the morning. I don't think you were overkill. I might wait to respond until I'm a little less busy with other things. I like texting, but I don't want to get locked up in a texting conversation or whatever it is you're doing, just like I wouldn't want to take a phone call, until I have the time available for that conversation. You simply don't know what's going on. It could be she had a really fun night including the kissing, but she ultimately doesn't really have you as "top priority," or it could even be that she feels like the kissing was too much and she feels guilty for kissing too soon (how old are you/she?) or thinks you're after sex, so she's kind of putting on the breaks. You don't know. I would say you have contacted her twice now with no response, and leave it at that. Don't contact her again today. You might go for a round three (three strikes) in a day or two, but if continued non-response, drop it. Sorry. I guess it wasn't what you thought. I've had this happen. The date went exceptionally well. Even a second date. Then it's over. Ghosted. I will extend a couple texts and then I let it go. I have gotten responses that were one-word (tone of being annoyed, but it's text), and it hurts, wait some time before that last text, just to be sure, and then you just have to let it go. Drop the rope, move on. This won't the last time this happens, but don't let it break you. Text some followup texts, call, snap, whatever, and leave the ball in her court. Don't overdo it. You've done two, so maybe a third after some time has passed, and move on.
SwordofFlame Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Some women and men use online dating just to go on a fun date or two with no desire to take it any further than that. It's possible she was bored and just wanted a fun date. 1
ChatroomHero Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 A lot of times when people don't know the score, it's simply because they don't accept all the information they have. You reached out, she placed either very low or no importance in contacting you. Low interest. If she reaches at some point, still low interest. The facts are there, you say you are confused, but you are really ignoring the basic fact that she did not respond by trying think of things like she was too busy, something came up, etc...you're trying to qualify it by assuming things in you favor. Look, a family member could be ill, her work could be crazy...reaching out takes less than 3 seconds of her time. No excuse could justify not taking 3seconds to send a text. Move on. If she reaches out to you great, but I would put 1/2 effort into anything knowing you were just a blip on her dating radar.
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