Girl just stops responding after three weeks and a great date. Why?

[Ordinaryday]

Hi guys,

 

I used to post here a lot a few years ago when I was coming out of a bad break up and the advice you gave me was tops! Thanks.

 

Anyway long story short, about three weeks ago I got messaged by a Vietnamese girl on a dating site and she seemed really interested. Like REALLY. We started chatting by text and she told me she is an international student here in Australia and looking for a nice Australian man to be her boyfriend.

 

I thought we really hit it off as she moved VERY FAST and within a week she was texting me stuff like how she was so glad she found me and how I could protect her and teach her English and that sort of thing. We had a date in person and I thought it went well, after the date she texted me saying she had a great time and couldn't wait to see me again!

 

EVERY SINGLE DAY for three entire weeks she was texting me and calling me and telling me how amazing I was and then last Friday I texted her asking her a question and she never responded. It was not a rude question, she texted me saying that she wanted me to help her improve her English in some way and I told her we would read a book together and I texted her asking if she would prefer a funny or serious book and she never got back to me. NOTHING. NADA. Zilch.

 

I just don't understand what is going on. For three weeks she seemed practically in love with me and not a word in over a week!

 

Be honest, what is likely going on? Was she playing me and just toying with my emotions? Or what?

[d0nnivain]

She liked the idea of you . . . the person she thought you were. Upon meeting you, she changed her mind.

 

 

Going forward, understand nothing is real until you meet.

[preraph]

So you went on one date and then 3 weeks of texting? Why no second date? Did you ask her out? Maybe she thought you weren't interested if you never asked her out again. What's with her asking you to help with her English? Is she looking for a free tutor? I am having trouble putting that into context. Could she have been hinting that she has no idea how to read what you're texting or something?

[SoThatHappened]

None of us could possibly know exactly, but I do know this:

 

You're trying to be a white knight and it was going to bite you in the ass eventually.

 

Don't do that. Learn WHY you wanted to be someone's savior and learn how to stop that desire.

 

Why would you want to date someone that moves so quickly anyway?

[Maldives]

Dude I would say it had something to do wth u went on a date then there's no follow up or 2nd Date and maybe she thought u werent serious.

Although dude be careful this smells of her getting a visa. I live on the gold coast and know lots of Japanese students and that's all they think about how to get someone to marry

[mightycpa]

There are only two interpretations to be made for the silent treatment:

 

1) I'm uncomfortable with the subject matter and if I ignore it sufficiently, I won't have to deal with it. Fingers in ears, neener-neener-neener-neener.

 

or

 

2) F*** OFF!

 

The first one is the response of a child. The second, a nightmare.

 

Take your pick. Both are bullets dodged. You don't want to be with either one.

[Bromeo]

There are only two interpretations to be made for the silent treatment:

 

1) I'm uncomfortable with the subject matter and if I ignore it sufficiently, I won't have to deal with it. Fingers in ears, neener-neener-neener-neener.

 

or

 

2) F*** OFF!

 

The first one is the response of a child. The second, a nightmare.

 

Take your pick. Both are bullets dodged. You don't want to be with either one.

 

Point number one explains several women I've had the displeasure of becoming involved with.

 

As a previous poster explains, the white knight mentality is a function of our (men's) broken selection criteria, which dictates that due to insecurities in relationship, you (and I, and multiple men I know) are not worthy of an equal partner, and seek to stay in a superior role above them. Although both sexes choose fixer upper projects, we are speaking to op in this context.

 

As sweetfish said in a different thread, dating these kinds of women will lead to them leveling up, creating issues, and departing, allowing another to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

 

The ghosting and ignoring is simply a byproduct of the above. Good thing is, when you've been through it once, as I went through after being ghosted after 18 months, you are cured. Pain truly is the most effective teacher.

 

A solidly immature mid thirties woman will effectively purge the relationship impurities from you.

 

I told my date last night that I was glad I went through my drama, and that she gets to meet this version of me.

 

When you love yourself enough, you will have a take it or leave it attitude. Best of all, you won't tolerate or ruminate about this type disrespectful, cheap, and immature bs.

 

Just thoughts on the path.