Eric21797 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Ok i met this beautiful girl at a bar and grill last Sunday. I sat down at her table of friends ( kinda a cocky move but i guess she liked it) and started talking to her. I ended up asking for her number, she gave me her name and told me to hit her up on Facebook if i was serious She was suprised when i sent her a friend request almost immediately after leaving and we made small talk till she went to bed. The next day i waited for her to message me first( not wanting her to know how much i liked her) And she did around 11am and we talked the rest of the day And i asked her for her number She gave it to me immediately and i think i tested her once before i went to bed. The next day she texted me saying " hows your day? I'm suprised i haven't heard from you" and i said " oh yeah. Whys that". Any way i ended up asking her to go out go do something Friday. And she said " oh your busy all week?? " i said no im not. Im fishing right now you can join me if you'd like. So we met up and talked for like 2 and a half hours. She even opened up to me. She said she didn't like games, like me waiting to text her and saying " oh really " like i did. We ended up making out and when i hugged her she would lean into me like she almost loved me ( not saying she does) and longed for love in her life. i felt a real connection and i know she did to. The next day she seeded distant. I asked if she was ok and she told me shes going threw alot of personal problems. I told her I'm here if she wants to talk. She told me thank you. I then said i would give her some space. That was yesterday. Do you think she really likes me and is afraid of getting hurt?
MountainGirl111 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Yes, and yes. "I'm going through personal problems" seems clear enough. And, who knows, maybe she is still getting over another hurtful relationship. You don't know her well enough yet to determine it all. There is a multitude of possible "problems". But, yeah, if she seems guarded, she could have been hurt before and so it's hard for her to trust.
olasp Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Yes she like you, don't worry. Give her time. I'm glad she opened up. It means a lot to her when you said you're there if she likes to talk. I have also been going through big problems in my life. When I dated guys I liked they rejected me because they didn't want to wait some weeks before I'm stable. It would mean the world to me if they had told me what you said.
Titanll Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 You are projecting your desires onto her pretty strongly. You have no idea if she felt a connection. Cool your engines a bit. She obviously liked you enough to see you. You barely know her so take your time. At this rate you two will be married next week.
d0nnivain Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 She has a life & right now it's stressful. The cute new guy (you) is the bright spot. It's too early for her to dump all her emotional stuff on you. Sit tight. Be patient. Go on the date. It will be fine if you don't push. True intimacy where she can trust you with the bad stuff takes time.
BaileyB Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Just invite her on a date. Have some fun together and take your time to know her. All will be revealed to you, with time... 1
smackie9 Posted May 20, 2017 Posted May 20, 2017 Don't be letting yourself become her emotional tamp0n or you will get launched into the friends zone or turn into a rebound. Shes got some baggage, leave it to her to deal with on her own time. Keep things light, fun, enjoyable and positive when you hang out. Take your time.
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