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Initiating contact after the first date


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I went out of this date with a guy I really like.

We first met two months ago and hit it off really well. We chatted back and forward here and there.

He was going thru a break up and moving out after we met so I backed off and let him come to me.

Eventually, he reached out and set up a date for us.

The date went extremely well and at the end we slept together

Now I'm on vacation and told him I'd talk to him once I'm back. But I initiated messaging a couple times to tell him how my trip has been going and also a different time if he wanted to spend time together again...he has been open to responding and also open to hanging out again. He told me to call him when I have sometime to hang out.

But, at this point I've reached out a couple times now....and I get an clouded outlook when I'm the persuer after the first date ...

Do u think I should back off for a couple weeks before I let him know.im back from vacation or just back off completely until he calls me...

Any advice? I'm clueless

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What's absurd? I just don't want to come off too eager ... Usually guys like to do the chasing

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You have slept together. I rather think you are a little late for questions about timing of calls or contact. If he only wanted sex, the chase is over, isn't it?

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You have slept together. I rather think you are a little late for questions about timing of calls or contact. If he only wanted sex, the chase is over, isn't it?

 

So am I just supposed to drop out because we slept together? Lol

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If you are looking for a relationship, the only reason you should reach out to him is to tell him that. Wait for his reaction. Otherwise he might think you are there only because of sex.

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So am I just supposed to drop out because we slept together? Lol[/quote

Who said anything about dropping out? But if you can't figure out when to communicate after you have arguably advanced the relationship, how will we know when? LOl.

 

Just seems odd that you can have sex on date one and then not want to come off as eager.

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Okay... That's fair enough lol

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